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Long story short. Woman breaks up with husband and I meet her straight after the break up. Said she had been married but I didn't ask how long they had been apart. Dated for a few months became very close very quickly. Get dumped as she goes back to husband. Initially no contact then contact again. She's told her husband she wants to remain friends with me and we only dated. Been invited to a party at their house a post lockdown party when restrictions are lifted. Do I go or is it asking for trouble?

Run! Definitely trouble ahead. Plenty more fish in the sea, etc.

Thing is though we knew each other long before she was married and were really good friends. Randomly bumped in to each other after years. I knew she had got married. We both fancied each other for years before we lost contact, I moved away due to work. She told her husband we dated whilst they were separated and nothing else happened. I do want to remain friends with her as we were always close prior to me moving. I don't think her husband is too keen but has agreed to her inviting me and there will be lots of people there. It won't be a shit show will it? Surely we can all get on

She wants to keep you around to stroke her ego. Don't be daft.

Not thinking of that. I'm thinking about the party when it happens. Will her husband be ok with me or will he try and make me as uncomfortable as possible

Why would you go?

Midsomers murder plot comes to mind :/
It would be a bit awkward wouldn't it at best?

Why would you even want to go? What's the point? She dumped you to go back to her husband. I would hope you have more self-respect than to pander to her silly mind games.

We have been good friends for years before this (bar losing contact when I moved away) would it not be good if we could remain friends, or is that not possible now, do you think her husband will just be watching us closely and getting paranoid when there is no reason. I'm not after trying to take her from him, she chose to go back I respect that but neither of us wants to give up our friendship

Are you on the up and up? I mean really, this is one of the most unbelievable questions I’ve seen posed here. Of course you SHOULD’NT
go!

Don't go to the party.

Unless you are 100% over her- completely indifferent- then you can't continue as friends. It's just common sense.

You are not just "good friends" anymore, you are ex-lovers. Actually, you are the ex-lover who got dumped. You will not be able to remain friends with her, especially because her husband knows something happened between you. I assure you he's not stupid.