Sorry if this is long, really need some advice and I don’t want to drip feed.
I split up with him a few weeks ago because I needed some space to gather my thoughts. The main reason I left was, I worried it was becoming abusive. He would fly off the handle over something small and swear at me. He would also threaten to leave because part of him wanted a reaction from me and part of him wanted to stop the rowing. I’m not the type to ‘walk on egg shells’ or bite my tongue, so I’d always snap back at him and stick up for myself. His issue with me was, he felt I would carry the argument on too far, when he‘d ask me to stop. I would get frustrated that he called the shots on when I could stop arguing. He felt the relationship was one sided, his feelings were never taken into consideration. He’s always the one to say sorry and we’d talk about it but we went round in circles. He’s very hard working, has done a lot for me, put me first and showed he cared by his actions. We had some great times, lived together, was about to buy a new house.
Since being apart, we have spoken. He doesn’t want to go separate ways and I’m unsure. I’ve told him that his behaviour was unacceptable and we should have set boundaries at the beginning. He agreed with me and said he’d make sure he’d not do it again. But I don’t see how he can stop being so touchy? He then said he felt I was digging him out and he felt I put all the blame on him. I didn’t know what to say. I just want to make the right decision.