I've never mentioned this ......

[yama]

Don't know where to start.

Here goes: The father of my beautiful wee girl headed back to South Africa before she was born. I hold no bad feelings towards him - he was just too young.

Anyway, my partner now, my daughter's father, the love of my life is her father.

I don't ever worry about the biological father coming back.

Don't now what I'm trying to post really but someone said to me today that blood was thicker than water.

Is it?

yama i have explained this to my dd in bits since she was 2, they understand little bits at different ages. eg. do you know you had a different daddy when you were born/in my tummy.. start asap to avoid any issues and answer any susequent questions as truthfully as you can. (eg. why did my other daddy go away? because he didnt want to be a daddy. but the daddy you have now loves being a daddy

etc etc

obviously use whatever words you are comfortable with, this is an abridged version!

and the blood thicker than water thing is inaccurate. it totally depends on the people involved. some biological parents are total sh*ts to their kids just as much as some non-bio (sounds like washing powder) parents are brilliant ones.

Blood is thicker than water, but love conquers all.

Have never known my biological father. My mum married when I was 4, and he is my dad. Absolutely. I have never felt the need for anything more than him. So no, blood isn't thicker...

Because of the age thing, I have always known about it. I think that is the best way. Good advice on here.

By the way I don't agree with what the saying blood is thicker than water means whatsoever.

Agree you need to tell her - the only time it should be a problem is if there is any Family history of disease in his family.

good luck