Cringe

[Bother7]

There is a man I know. Have known him for about 6 months and fancied him since we met first. We are in the same social group and also whatsapp group and he is very chatty with everyone. He's also interested in a lot of the same things as me and also single. So, after many months and a shitty day at work I finally plucked up the courage and messaged him directly in an attempt to start a conversation.

I know he has visited a certain place earlier this year and I decided to ask him about it. I was very friendly in my message, asking how he was, what he's been up to and if he could recommend some places in country x. He just replied, 'Sorry don't know!' I followed up with another message asking another question and his reply was 'Oh, no idea'. He couldn't be more blunt could he? He's always had this arrogance about him so why do I fancy him? Cringe!

Sorry if I sound like I'm 12 years old. I'm nearly 40, rarely fancy anyone and have no idea how to meet anyone these days.

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His response would put me right off - he doesn't sound very intelligent, into you or not.

Why cringe?Don't give it a second thought - imagine you had no interest in him; you wouldn't be remotely bothered by his abrupt reply.

Unfortunately your crush seems to be unrequited but fair play for making an effort.

Nothing to cringe about, you asked him a question about travel you didn't send him a picture of your boobs!!

I'd say he's not interested and trying to make that clear and not lead you on. However those replies were unnecessarily curt and rude to somebody who's in your social circle..... time to move on.

Thanks all. I've gone off him and you've all made me see sense!

Good grief - even if a total stranger messaged me and asked me if I could recommend some places to visit in somewhere I'd been I would have been nicer than he was in my answer!

It's not you that needs to cringe, OP, it's him. Unless you were asking him to show you those places...?

He sounds very very rude and offhand. It shouldn't matter whether or not you fancy him, if you wanted information and he refused to give it, then he's a tossbag and not worth another second of your time.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX blimey. You'd take umbrage because someone sent you a message?! Really? If I fancy texting or whatsapping a friend or potential friend then I'm not going to be dicking about trying to accommodate or second guess how that person might use or view social media. It sounds a bit like you're one of the professionally offended!

Well you found out he is rude ,arrogant and thoughtless . Time to find a nice guy who likes you.

Exactly @Zaphodsotherhead @Whaleoilbeefhookedagain thanks all. Funny thing is when I first met him he came across as really arrogant and I told myself to stay away from him. First impressions were right this time. Strange that other females in the group get along with him.

But yes, not worth the energy even thinking about it. Now need to find a nice attractive man somewhere

He does sound like a bit of a rude twat OP. Be grateful you found out early!

I don't think he sounds like a dick but more like he is being intentionally clear he doesn't want to have a chat - maybe he has a partner and doesn't want to give the wrong impression? Either way, I would say he's not interested.

Not cringe at all though! You just asked for a recommendation - nothing embarrassing and I would just forget about it