I’ve name changed for this although if the person who sent the email sees this they’ll know exactly who I am.
Was involved in a toxic on/off relationship with my ex for 5 years. He’s the father of my nearly 3 year old. He lives in London and I live in Scotland. We moved here together and he left about 1.5 years ago.
There’s so much backstory and I don’t want to drip feed. I’ve been trying to put down boundaries in terms of communication etc. to protect myself as I’ve had threats etc. I have spoken with the police who then spoke to him as he ended up calling my work earlier this year to try and find out where I was as he was “worried about me” (he’d been texting me the day before calling me pathetic).
Contact has always been an issue - I’ve never stopped it or denied him access, although in hindsight I probably should have been firmer with things. When he first moved away he was expecting me to meet him halfway with our child whilst not giving any maintenance (I was on benefits and don’t drive). He took her to stay at his new gfs when I had been told he was staying at his parents (I was unaware of his new partner and only found out through pics he’d put on social media).
Due to Covid and our child being unwell in Feb (was meant to go down then) there’s been no direct contact since Dec/start of Jan). It went to court in March as he was wanted access and I didn’t feel it was safe at that point. FaceTime/phone contact was granted for 15 mins every day. Video calls don’t always go as he likes because our child is 2 🤷♀️
I’m aware I’m writing a lot so sorry! He texted me this morning asking how I’m feeling (?!) I phoned to ask him not to send texts like that as I feel it’s inappropriate. The attached email was his response.
I do take antidepressants but I don’t discuss my mental health with him and don’t want to. I don’t have to, do I? He would be the worst person for me to disclose anything to. He uses things against me and has form for doing things when he’s angry at me.
I don’t know what I’m asking here but I’m at the point where I feel I’m in the wrong and I’m too involved to think clearly about anything.
My Dad died when I was 18 and I don’t want our child growing up without their Dad (he knows this) but I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I’ve said he can have a week of direct contact as I feel guilty my child hasn’t seen their Dad and he’s threatened that I’ll have to justify myself in court if they haven’t seen each other when we go back to court (August). I’m also so scared of being seen as an unreasonable mother in court because of the decisions I’ve made
Help 🤯