Long story short, I'm married with kids but before I met my husband I was with someone for nearly 4yrs and we lived together. I'd known him most of my life as we grew up living opposite each other on a cul de sac road. He was a bit older and never interested in me until we were in our 20's and had left where we grew up (although our parents still lived there). I was close to his family and knew them from when I was growing up as well as the time I was in a relationship with him. His Mum died in tragic circumstances just before I met him and he obviously never got over it and struggled to deal with it over the course of our relationship. I recently saw on social media that his dad sadly passed away unexpectedly, which I was gutted about. I know how close they were since his Mum died and how hard this is going to hit him. I sent him a pm offering my condolences and had hoped he'd reply as even though we're not in a relationship (he's single) I still care about him as a friend. Our relationship ended on amicable terms and I guess we lost touch when I got married. I can't stop thinking of how awful his situation is with losing both his parents long before their time (he's in his late 30's). I guess because I saw what he went through with his mum I'm worried about how he'll take the news about his dad. I know it's none of my business, but he's not not just an ex as he and his family are part of my childhood memories. I'd like to reach out as a friend (my DH knows I sent him a message) but I guess an ex is the last person you want to hear from?