Love bombing !

[Willowmartha1]

Never heard of this before Mumsnet !! Please share your experiences......

Literally every guy I have dated since using OLD. Just ended things with one. He was 'besotted' on our first date and asked if we could delete our profiles after 2 dates. He had updated his facebook relationship status within a week. Obviously I knew they were red flags but, I really liked him so I stupidly went along with it.
8 months later I have ended things because it turns out he is extremely childish and selfish and its all for show. He ignores my feelings and over-reacts to things.
And to top it all off, he's got a drink problem!

I didn't know what a covert narcissist was, until I got sucked in by one.

First red flag is this exactly.

totally If you try to say what we all know to your friend, you may well be accused of being jealous of her new relationship etc. It is very obvious to those out of the bubble, but when you are in it, it is just not obvious. It is a difficult one. Maybe you could just have a chat to her to be aware of red flags and not to ignore any gut feelings she has.

I would never have thought that I would get sucked in. But, I did and I never want to go through that again.

It is all very obvious now, now that I am on the outside looking in.

OH MY GOD!! LOVEBOMBING
I was so pleased when I discovered this was an actual thing, I thought it was me...I thought i'd just pissed him off!
I got lovebombed big time by a man. He would send me poems, texts, pictures, sing down the phone to me, turn up where I was going to be ust so he could kiss me.
Then one day...…..it all stopped.
When I returned the gesture....I got an 'aww' text or a 'lol' text.
When I sung to him, he would roll his eyes in annoyance.
That's what happens when they get you......they give up on the effort.

I've been love bombed. I knew what was happening, but at the time I enjoyed the attention. The constant phone calls started to get too much though. He would phone and just ramble. We met online and in person about a month later. When we met he didn't actually seem that fussed. There was little emotion. No feelings in his eyes. When he left I didn't expect to hear from him again. He continued to text though and phone. A few weeks later the l bomb. It's a real head fuck. You know it's not genuine. He started messaging less and less, being abrupt, starting arguments, little digs.

Yep, first major boyfriend. Said he
Loved me within 2 weeks, I was young and loved the attention. After all the months of wooing and telling me I was amazing he cooled off suddenly and then rung me up and ditched me. I was shocked, I couldn’t understand how someone who said they wanted to marry me could be so suddenly cruel, I was begging on the phone for hours and then this small part of me realised he hadn’t hung up, he wasn’t indulging me to be kind, he was just loving me begging. So I just put the phone down. It took me ages to get over but I’m glad I ended that conversation, and a bit embarrassed because I didn’t actually fancy him that much.

It's ridiculous. I figured him out weeks ago but didn't want to believe it. I'm a bit broken now. Wake up feeling ill every morning. I've supported him, been there through his stress and worry been a supportive ear. He's just cold and now a little cruel. I was ok yesterday just giving him sort replies then last night let myself down. Said I miss him and he said blame the Chinese. He's an Idiot. I want to block but I think he will turn nasty.