Kicked him out

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My verbally abusive husband had left tonight.
He called me a cunt multiple times. Shouting at me. Swearing. He didn’t leave. I asked his family for help. They didn’t help so I called 999.

He’s gone. Police coming tomorrow as he legged it when I called them.

He such an angry immature reckless man. I don’t want him near our children. He can be rough and abusive to them too.

Anyway, we jointly own this home.

Can I get universal credit if I’m on a mortgage?

Any tips for me moving forward?
I’ll call solicitor Tuesday for advice. I’m looking into an occupation order.

No advice, but best of luck .

I’m so sorry OP I don’t have any advice because I don’t know, but well done!

Well done for calling the police. I know how hard it is - had to do it myself once in similar circumstances.

You will definitely be entitled to some support as a single parent if you’re on a low income. There are different elements to it I think - so if you rented you’d get extra to cover that. But even without rental help, you could get some financial support with general living costs. Have a look on this website and put in the details as if you’re living apart. Good luck

Oh this all happened, Pineapple, because I challenged him over him saying it’s acceptable to hit a child if it’s self defence. But he calls me those names because I wind him up. I wind him up because I’m on my period, of course. I’m a snake with tits.

So that’s why I was called a cunt, amongst other things.

"Can I get universal credit if I’m on a mortgage?"

Yes, unless you earn too much. It's dependant on income.
Apply now. Xx.

And well done, lovely. Been there. X

@Pineapple1did you just ask the survivor of domestic abuse to reflect on their behaviour to see why her abuser did so?

Good for you! Vile man. If he knew he'd done nothing wrong he wouldn't have legged it when the police were called. Don't hold back in the morning when the police ask you for a statement. You and your children will be so much more better off.

No, Universal Credit will not pay towards your mortgage. They will however pay you an amount to live on and towards any children you have

He came back this morning. All apologetic and he’s thought and he’ll put me first and get help. I called 999. They made him leave. Heard it all before

Hi I've just split with my husband and am due to receive my first UC payment on 30th and am on the mortgage it's dependent on earnings xx

Pineapple1
Why was being verbally abusive? What did he perseve you to have done wrong to warrant it?
How can you ask this. I hope you are not being abused and made to think it is all your fault.

@saffy1234 how long did it take to go through?x

Hi I applied 24th April and I'm due to be paid 30th!
However I got an advance payment 29th which was good it was quite quick as long as you have a passport etc to prove identity x

Well done and good luck 💐

UC is bad for mortgages I'm afraid. But seriously well done, you sound like you're in a really strong place at the moment so keep that going. One price of advice, start keeping a record of everything he says/does. I let my ex back 3 times as my mind starts to blank out the bad, he would mention things and I genuinely couldn't remember them. I now have a book with printed emails/texts of all the bad and then good he does/says. It's a very clear pattern - cunt, slut, bad mother - flowers - bitch, psychopath, bad mother - I love you, suicide threats and so on.

Good luck OP, it really does get better.

If your name is on the mortgage, can you get a mortgage holiday now? Just to give you some breathing space

@Pineapple1 are you next going to ask what the children do to warrant him being ‘rough and abusive’ with them?

Wow, are you all that blind to my question? What did he PERSEVE, AS IN WHAT DID HE THINK SHE DID WRONG. I never said she didn't anything wrong. And he's obviously totally in the wrong. I was just interested to know why he did it.

It's 'perceive'.

You can get universal credit depending on your income, they won’t pay your mortgage though.
Well done though. Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. 🙌🏻

@Pineapple1, and the OP explained.

He said it was acceptable to hit a child in 'self defence', she disagreed and he kicked off.

Pineapple I think you mean 'perceive' what OP did wrong in his eyes? It really doesn't matter. Abusers abuse because they think they can get away with it.

Well done OP. You'll get lots of clear and understanding advice if you have this moved to Relationships (just report your post and request it).