Do you trust your own feelings?

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Such as do you trust yourself being in love with someone? Or would you think it’s infatuation. Do you trust yourself to know and do what is best for you?

No I don’t. Maybe I should but I often don’t see things clearly until time has passed and I have the benefit of hindsight.

Not any more.

Friendship yes, romantically no.

Nope, my radar is well off

I wish I trusted my instincts more. The rare occasions I've ignored them have been complete cock ups!

Yes.

Yes but it took me many years and a few mistakes to get to this point.

Nope!

No... like a pp said - yes to friendships but when it comes to relationships/ love, no. Trying to work on it

Yes I trust mine but not anyone elses

If these are deep and consistent feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, being cared for and valued - and all of their actions were objectively kind and respectful - then yes I would trust my gut that I loved that person.

Infatuation is a bubble of insanity that can exist for a time devoid of reality - and may or may not transition to a sustainable loving long term relationship.

What’s are you feeling?

These days yes, when I was younger, no.

Not in the slightest

I know when I have the hots for someone, yes. That’s a very clear feeling.

No I am ridiculous if I have feelings for a man. I ignore red flags, obsess, get overly emotional about men who really dont deserve my devotion. I wish I could stop it but it happens every single time.

No not at all

Yes 100%

Yes. I've indulged infatuation when younger but even then had reserves in me that allowed me to be sensible as needed and not make reckless decisions.

Now I'm older I think I'm less likely to experience infatuation. Which probably makes for a calmer, more even life and steadier loving, but it has its own drawbacks and is less exciting.

My head rules my heart. So should yours!

My friends seldom ask for romantic advice from me any more. Every time someone says, “follow your heart blah blah” I contradict them and say, “No, don’t follow your heart. Look at what happened last time you decided that you had been swept off your feet by some chancer!”

Your default mode should be deciding that you are NOT in love with somebody until you have built up a reliable evidence base. Our instincts are often wrong where relationships are concerned.

Yes, absolutely

I am the most reliable person I know

I trust myself to spot the signs that something isn’t right. I just don’t do anything about it because my optimistic side wants to love more than anything.

I have complete faith in myself. If I can't rely on me, who else can?

No - have met someone who I felt a great mutual connection with, and I thought if he became single it will come together. So he became single for a while - and nothing happened.

I mean I can trust my feelings mostly, I can recognise when it's love rather than lust on my part, but totally wrong about theirs! And as they say, it's not the love of your life if it's not mutual.

I do now but it's as a result of not listening to my gut previously and later down the line realising my instincts were totally right. Multiple times too! After the last time that happened I made a promise to always trust my gut whether it's something positive or if it's negative. Since I've started trusting my own instincts things have been working out really well, long may it continue!

For example, while I was dating if I felt any uncertainty about a person I stopped pursuing them, I never felt any regret afterwards. And when I met my current boyfriend my gut instinct was that he was a good person and a good match for me and so far so good! I still feel the same a few months down the line and have no feelings of insecurity about the relationship like I have previously when I've ignored my gut feeling that something wasn't quite right about someone.

This is so well put @Gutterton
Thanks everyone it’s strange how we can be so overwhelmed with infatuation it is a kind of insanity