My parents, DS and DBIL live in the same city, near each other. I live in another city. DS has a DC aged 2. DBIL is a doctor and has worked on corona wards, antibody test is clear. My DF has been told he is on the vulnerable list by his GP. He received chemotherapy and radiation for an aggressive brain cancer starting in Jan and ending a couple of weeks ago. He’s 66, but his doctors have said he’s aged during treatment. We are BAME. He had underlying hypertension and pre-diabetes before his cancer was diagnosed.
DS and DBIL insist on breaking lockdown to visit my DF with their son. I’ve tried reasoning with them and so now they pretend they haven’t been. My DF has suffered some cognitive decline due to treatment so accidentally sent me pictures of him and DM with my nephew taken today. It’s not the first time since lockdown, but DS has never mentioned visiting my parents.
I feel so helpless and frustrated. My DF just doesn’t have the mental werewithal to resist when people visit him, he is so lonely. My DM will never go against my DS, she’s the quintessential golden child. My DS just won’t listen to me and worse, won’t tell me when she visits. My DBIL insists that as a doctor he’s a better judge of risk than me. He’s checked my DFs blood test results on the hospital system and decided DF is fine. I’m just so hurt and scared. They won’t obey lockdown and then they lie to me about meeting.
I have a good relationship with my sister usually but when I called her today to explain how I feel, she asked me to only communicate in writing and now won’t respond to my messages. I just don’t know what to do.