Who else feels different after becoming a parent

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My little girl is a year old I been with my current partner for 6 months
He never really calls me beautiful or anything odd time he's called me sexy
I just feel like I am not that pretty
He finishes work at 7 at night we basically barely speak much now which is uncomfortable I really do want to be with him
I try and dress up but he doesn't comment

This is to do with your relationship rather than you being a parent. You don’t sound very happy with him ad have only been together 6 months.

Why do you really want to be with him? Are you sure you aren’t just wishing he was a different kind of person who says lovely things? Because to be honest, if he doesn’t compliment you and make you feel great at this point he never will.

If it’s like this after six months I think your relationship is the problem not being a parent. I have a baby of a similar age and don’t feel like that at all.

Maybe you should take some time to enjoy being a parent to your little girl and not focus on having a man around? It doesn't sound like he's making you feel good and just being a little family unit of your own without a guy is ok, you know.

Are you living together?

I think it’s a relationship thing, rather than a baby thing. Maybe just take some time out and enjoy your little one for a while before thinking about a relationship

What was he like before DC?

She's only been with the guy 6 months.

If it’s changed it’s not because you’re a parent if you’ve had your baby longer than you’ve had your boyfriend? If you’re not happy then end it. Focus on your baby.

I think it's just thus lockdown that's making me feel like this we on lockdown together you see he works. I just been feeling low he's amazing I just over look at things xxxx

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What's amazing about him? You have nothing to say to each other and you don't feel attractive to him. You haven't been together long, so lockdown is going to show stuff up.

Being a parent or not, if you're not happy in a relationship after only 6 months it doesn't hold out much hope for the future. Why don't you just ditch him and focus on your baby.

He's amazing because he does make me smile there are moments where we are fine together
He works long hours and sometimes after work wants to just relax and I guess I just sensitive at times
I am attractive to him

So why did you post, if everything's fine after all?

Sorry little tired not bad much sleep 🙈🙈 xx

I said sometimes it fine but I don't know if it's just me over looking at things I don't have many friends to talk with
Thought since the lock down people who have partner who having similar issues could relate just more of a rant

The one thing I noticed please don't judge me.
How would you react if your partner liked a women in her underwear ( not a celebrity

I think you need to give us some more info here. Is he the baby's dad? You have been in a relationship for 6 months, but how long have you known him? How long have you been living together?

Sorry to have been short with you.

If you're struggling with parenthood, speak to your HV and GP for support, in case you're suffering PND. Lockdown doesn't help anyone's MH anyway.

With your boyfriend, if you feel insecure because of the way he's behaving and don't feel loved and supported, don't rush to dismiss it - you have only been together a short while and you're still finding out things about each other.

I was single for a long while till I met my current partner he says he ain't here to mess me about but I am a very sensitive person xx
We not living together just been on lockdown together
I known him for years xxx

And if he's liking pictures of women he knows/you know in their undies, it's pretty disrespectful.

Being in a relationship is very different to knowing as acquaintances/friends.

I used to do underwear modeling but I remove them I never like guys photos
I just feel like crap xxx

I wouldn't like a partner liking underwear pics of random women, though strangely I wouldn't be that bothered if it was celebrity pics. Seeing as you don't normally live together, it could just be too much so early on and he is missing having his space.

So you have a 1 year old and been with your BF for 6 months, so you got together when your child was 6 months old, is that right ?

Your comments seem a bit disjointed, are you ok?
I don't think your issue is being a parent, it sounds like it is the relationship you are in that may not be working.

He most likely is very tired after a long days work, but At 6 months in, I was very excited to see my boyfriend and we chatted a lot, but I also wasn't dealing with a 6month/12 month old.

You shouldn't have to dress up nice for him, you should dress for you. Dress to make yourself feel nice, give yourself confidence, it's only a bonus if he likes it.

Without sounding horrible, you need to concentrate on your child and you. It shouldn't be hard work 6 months in. You never really know anyone, in my opinion, until you live with them. If you are not happy now, sadly I'm not sure how things would change going forward, sorry.