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Blossoming new romance! What would you do differently in a new relationship post divorce please? Any top tips?

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Masala2020 · 24/05/2020 08:29

So, I have a virtual romance brewing during lockdown which is all very sweet and well timed. We seem to be using this time to get to know each other and set some ground rules for the relationship. I’ve been married practically my whole life, which ended unhappily, and so am keen to kick things off on the right foot, with Boundaries for a mature, healthy and respectful relationship the second time. What would you do and not do if you started again in your romantic relationship or marriage? Thanks!

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PinkMonkeyBird · 26/05/2020 10:31

If something annoys you, say so, dont be so agreeable

This ^^. I'm in a newish relationship of nearly 8 months and we've had one small blip with regards to something I didn't agree with. The way he responded to me challenging it, was a refreshing change to the way I've been treated in my previous relationship. He totally saw my point of view, there was no argument and it was a rational discussion with no drama.

From the offset I told myself that I would NEVER put up with things I didn't agree with again and the slightest hint of a red flag would be challenged and I'd be off if I was not happy with their attitude.

The other thing would be not to rush in too quickly with anything. We are in a LDR which helps put the brakes on things keeps everything on an even keel. It's a bummer at the moment with lockdown, though as we haven't seen each other for over 2 months.

I said I would never live with anyone again, but never say never. We both like our own company and were happy being single, but see each other as an added bonus to our lives. However, we definitely both want a future together (I'm late 40s he is early 50s) and envisage moving in with each other eventually - not for a few years.

I'm thankful my chap is very domesticated and also very proactive, thinking of things he'd love us to do together/visit/do. My ex was a total sloth so I knew (when I was single) that if I met anyone again, I didn't want a mummy's boy or someone who can't look after themselves and relies on you to make all the decisions etc. Ugh..I won't tolerate that again.

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