My boyfriend’s best friend

[Mariehelene]

Hello everyone

First of all I’m not an English native speaker so I’m sorry if I make mistakes. I’m in a relationship for almost 1 year, I’m 20 and he’s 23. Everything's fine between us but I'd like to hear a second opinion about his best friend. I will call his best friend Hugo to make the story easier to explain. From the beginning I get along with Hugo, he and my boyfriend are often together so in the beginning of our relationship the three of us often went out for a drink or dinner. We were always having fun together so I don’t got any problem by being in his company. I noticed Hugo started to feel more comfortable with me while when i was just together with my boyfriend he was a bit shy. One time my boyfriend was upset, a friend of him said Hugo looks in love when he’s talking to me and he talks often about me. I pretended to be surprised, there happened some suspicious things before and i actually had this feeling from the first day i met Hugo, I always felt a type of chemistry between us, I noticed his body language, how he talks to me but my feeling could be wrong. I didn’t want to embarrass myself and make my boyfriend upset for no reason. Months went by, i took some distance from Hugo, we didn’t text and see eachother often. Nothing special happened until some weeks ago. Hugo started texting me about some problems in his life, I listened to him and we talked about it the whole evening. When i woke up the next morning i got a deleted message from him, i asked him what he texted me. I wish I could post screenshots of our chat but i have no idea how. So short story about the conversation he told me he was afraid and shy to tell me but he’s in love with me, he has a crush on me since the first time he saw me, he doesnt know what to do with it and asked me for advice, he’s confused bcs im the girlfriend of his best friend and doesn’t know how to handle this, he asked me if it will change something… So i tried to convince him to talk about it with my boyfriend, he told me he will never tell him and asked me not to tell him. I called my boyfriend and told him he has to talk to Hugo bcs something happened. He met Hugo in the evening and after their conversation I received a message from Hugo “I was messing with you the whole time”. He told my boyfriend he was kidding me bcs he was bored and forgot to text me it was a joke… Anyway my boyfriend didn’t talk to him for 2 weeks but in the meantime they are friends again. My boyfriend believes he was joking or actually i think he wants to believe it cuz they are already best friends for more than 7 years and doesn’t want to end this friendship. It keeps running through my mind. Was this a joke or not? What do y’all think about this? Can someone give me advice please?

Kind regards

[pilates]

I think you need to pull away completely from your boyfriend’s best friend. Otherwise, it will all end in tears.

[ChristmasFluff]

Whatever way you cut it, Hugo is not a nice person.

He either is a headfuck wind-up merchant who was happy to mess with your head for 'fun' (I fail to see any 'joke' in what he did), or he is the type of person who will come on to his friend's girlfriend.

Either way you can't trust him, and I'd be pointing that out to your bf too.