I'm more than just broken

[sravani0]

Hello
I'm 23yrs old. I was in relationship with a Muslim guy for past 2 years and we are separated three months back because he said he can't marry me without me being converted to muslim. I'm an atheist and i don't want to practice islam. I'm an hindu. He is trying to contact me now and asking me to practice islam so that we can be married. I asked him to marry me by doing registration legally . He said he can't do that he loves allah more than me. He can't leave me not have me. I'm going through hell with this. I want him to accept me the way I'm but he says he can't

Block him!

Nope definitely not

This relationship has no future, please stop torturing yourself. The only way to move on will be to cut contact with this man.

This is not a good match. That doesn't ease your pain, but that is the reality.

Block him permanently and move on with your life.

No - move on. He's trying to control you. And the fact that he said he loves Allah more than you tells you everything you need to know.

You are better off without him. Cut all contact & give yourself a chance to find a man who loves YOU more than anything else.

Walk away and block him. You cannot be emotionally pressured into converting to a religion that you don't believe in just to be with a man. What else will he emotionally pressure you into down the line. Walk awa. Don't look back

I'm so sorry you are going through this, it must be a really horrible time for you. I agree with the other replies you've had, you and this man are not compatible. And if he is pressuring you after you've already explained your reasons, he is not the man for. If I were you I would block him on all platforms so that he can not continue to make you feel like this.

Run for the hills. This will not end well for you, the relationship will not work.
You need a man who has the same values as you as a life partner. A person who accepts you for everything you are and doesn’t expect you to be something you are not.

I am muslim and I married my non religious and non Muslim husband in a heart beat. You deserve someone that respects you and accepts you for who you are. Today he wants you to convert so that you two can get married. Tomorrow he'll want you to cover up and wear the hijab. Then next he'll want you to start practicing the religion. You see, this pattern will continue for the rest of your life with him. You shared some beautiful moments and love him dearly, but time to let go so that you both can do right by yourselves.

Ignore, block, and move on.

Kudos to KRAmum - well done! But I thought a Muslim woman marrying a non-Muslim man was punishable by death in places?

Anyway, it is absolutely unthinkable to try and change a partner's ideas or beliefs. The arrogance implicit in this is astonishing. I have heard of numerous similar cases with Islam as there is much family and community pressure - but it is still completely unacceptable.

Hello I’m an atheist and my boyfriend is muslim. This relationship can only work if you respect each other, he can't force you to choose between him and your religion. If he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he would respect your religion and your decision. He sounds a bit controlling and disrespectful... are you sure you want to marry this man and build a life together with him? How would you raise your children with him? Breaking up is hard but being in a toxic relationship, not being allowed to be yourself or raising your children the way you want seems much harder to me.

Block him, this relationship has no future and it will only upset you to have him contacting you and trying to wear you down. He wants to marry a Muslim - let him go do that, don't throw your life away for someone who can't accept you as you are.

It is sad for you now but you are getting good advice. Please listen & don't make the mistake of thinking if you just do this one thing he is asking, all will be ok. It won't stop there...KRAmum & Mariehelene are so right. You won't feel broken forever

please dont marry him.

and block him.

You're so young, you have the whole world at your feet. Please don't tie yourself down to someone who wants you to change for him, you can't convert to Islam half-heartedly for love, you have to truly believe and want to conform to the religion. Otherwise you will become resentful of him.

I'm reminded of a scene in Sex and the City where Charlotte has converted to Judaism and goes to a huge effort to make their first Sabbath together special.

She argues with her boyfriend "I gave up Christ for you!" He responds that he can't spend the rest of his life being told "take out the bins, I gave up Christ for you"

It's not so much the religion, just a basic incompatibility and an inability to accept who you actually are. A lack of respect for you and your beliefs.

Do you want your children to be indoctrinated into this rigid environment?

Honestly let it go. Heal from this relationship and when you are ready you will find someone SO much better for you. Who has more respect for you as the individual you are.

Cut him off completely. It's the only way to do it.

Loss of first love is heartbreaking but you will get over it. Block him and let yourself heal.

I had a religious dilemma over 30 years ago with my husband. We started dating and became inseparable very quickly , he mentioned his father was from Pakistan and Muslim but I made it very clear to him that I was a practising Morman ( church of Latter Day Saints) and it could only be a bit of fun as his family was Muslim and there was no way I would contemplate a future with him. My now husband said he was non practicing and a atheist and he would never ask me to change. After a few months though he started coming to church with me and eventually became a member. His father was disappointed but we became friends eventually and had many religious discussions and I was pleased our children had such a diverse religious background.

You cannot change your whole belief system for him and what about the future. If you have children the likelihood is that he would want them raised in the faith. My husband was never forced or coerced into Christianity, there was only a true conversion that happened.