Is he reading my texts? Messenger

[Thatsnotsnowy]

I was involved in a really mixed up and ultimately an extremely toxic online friendship with a man I met a few years ago.

A few months ago we fell out I said some terrible things and he disappeared from FB, I think he deleted his account. I have since spent a lot of time taking a good hard look at myself and what led me to become involved in such a horrible situation. I have also read up on narcissist patterns of behaviour and I now firmly believe that’s what he is.

The thing is I have sent him quite a few grovelling texts (Via messenger) over these months and a few slightly crazy ones in the beginning. I think I wanted some closure and to apologise, we have lots of mutual friends and I just don’t want this hanging over me any longer.

They are always sent, but not delivered. I know he is still using messenger.

Does the fact my texts are marked as “sent” mean that I’m blocked or has he set me to ignore and is in fact reading my texts but ignoring them.

Any advice would be welcome. Don’t be too hard, I know deep down it doesn’t matter, but I guess I’m struggling to move on after things were left so badly.

It’s natural to take some time to reflect.

It is but that’s not what you’re doing. You can not change what you don’t acknowledge and right now, you’re in denial about your behaviour,

Op did you never even meet this man? I think it’s time to let it go. It feels you’ve invested a lot into some stranger and still are.

I’d recommend focusing on how to connect with people in real life.

Thanks both, yes we met twice. We live hours from each other but have lots of mutual friends.

I take on board your comments about connecting with people in real life.. I have a group of close friends, we’ve been friends since school days and they know about this man. They’re glad it’s over as they said I seemed to change as a person last year, when it was at its peak of weirdness. I was very unhappy.

Maybe that’s part of the problem, we’re all struggling with lockdown and not being able to see friends and family. I think I am just having a low few days, I think about him less and less and I feel glad that I’m moving on. I read that healing isn’t linear and there will be good and bad days.

Messages are definitely marked as sent when blocked.

You can be off Facebook but still on messenger. And no, as someone mentioned the messages DO NOT mark as sent when you are blocked.

When you are blocked, the circle with the tick is an empty cycle if that makes sense? I was once annoying my partner so he blocked me on messenger as a joke and you can send messages but it shows as not received

Thanks for the advice. My texts say sent with a white circle and a tick in.

He has blocked you most definitely. Maybe if you want to send him a message then have someone you trust message him on your behalf.

if you want to send him a message then have someone you trust message him on your behalf

Sorry but that is TERRIBLE advice. OP, please do not do this. It would just be perpetuating your obsession with hom. Block him yourself, and move on.

Even this thread here will be perpetuating it.

Thanks everyone and no I won’t ask someone to send a message on my behalf.

I’m just finding it difficult at the moment. I thought I would fill my days with fun and friends all of which would help me move on, instead we’re in this kind of limbo and I have way too much time on my hands. Being poorly hasn’t helped either... feel pretty low generally.

Thanks again, for all the advice.