Will anyone else admit to being addicted to stalking the exes new woman on Social media?

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I know I'm a complete moron for doing so, but when my marriage ended (out of the blue), my ex husband went straight off with another woman.

Is it a female thing that we become so obsessed by the OW? I guess for me, it's a way of trying to piece the puzzle together as the ex just got up and left... with no explanation.

Just wondered who else would admit to doing the same thing?

I finally got round to checking out my XH's gf on FB. She seems lovely and I can't for the life of me understand why she has landed herself with such a useless old man. I wish her well. She is taking responsibility for the eejit which means my adult DDs don't have to!

@TheStuffedPenguin believe me, I know how ridiculous it seems. I used to chat to the male half but although he was interested, I could see he was pretty infatuated with the woman. But now they both post all the time. It's just me being bored really!

@PickUpAPickUpAPenguin - yep - I did the same very early on.
It was doing me no good at all.
Blocked and never unblocked!

I have to admit, I have/occasionally still look at their social media. Ex hardly posts anything, OW/new gf over compensated for that and posts everything. It doesn’t make me feel shit anymore. Just annoys me when he makes excuses regarding the kids when it’s obvious he’s with her

It’s the sort of thing I’d be quite capable of doing, certainly. But as PPs have said, it doesn’t achieve anything. Leave it all alone and move on.

My name is @muppetry76 and I'm a stalker.

Oy yes. Ex's posts, his new girlfriend's posts, my new boyfriend's exes posts.... Only on fb and being incredibly careful not to press the like button by accident. But it's not healthy, and has, at times, really screwed up my MH.

My ex's new girlfriend stalks me on LinkedIn, makes me chuckle when I get that little email notification!

Bluntness100

They hate seeing MM and the wife looking so happy and feel extremely jealous

Not sure about this last part, for the simple reason if your husband is having an affair and you don’t know, I doubt the ow feels jealous seeing pictures of you clueless and him pretending to be happy. She alone would know the marriage is not happy and the images a sham.

Yeah....you'd think so...but when MM tells the OW how crap his marriage is and the wife posts about the lovely things he does for her and there are photos of the fun times, the OW can still get very jealous. It's crazy really, but affairs can be really crazy and irrational.

The OW sees posts of what looks like a nice happy family and an MM full of empty promises, despite saying he doesn't love his wife....so she compares herself yo the wife...thinking why isn't he choosing the younger, slimmer woman who would do anything for him.

You can't tell anything from social media at all though. It's all fake.

I remember my ex's new gf used to tweet openly about how amazing he was, their holidays, how in love they were, all the gifts, and he was messaging and calling me! Even on the amazing holidays where they were madly in love, he was messaging me. Another time, I saw him on guardian soulmates. Social media means nothing. It's bullshit.

My exH's partner stalks me, (she was probably the OW) full of resentment about how I am spending his money. If I buy a new dress or something from the house, she tells him straight away. She tells him all about my life. But they only see what I choose to post. They know nothing.

As pp said; social media is BS.

Honestly. I have stopped myself from looking now. What am I hoping to see? Ex being happy/sad? There's no good outcome either way as we're over.

It's so highly edited too. I made a decision not to check stuff and it's really helped disassociate myself from him.

I don't have social media but I can imagine my partner's ex has been desperately trying to find me on there. She's been trying to find out info about me through her children. My partner was on the phone to their youngest and she was asking questions about me and then shouting the answers to her mum ('SHE''S 33 MUM!'), who was probably dying of cringe that her daughter was exposing her.

No idea why she wants to know these things tbh.

Not my ex's new woman but my current dating man's ex...

Seeing what his previous gf was like/did etc.... weird I know but she was a share everything they did on FB type... you know the ones, every date/walk/movie/show/outing.... it's odd and can see their entire time together...

Now I wish I didn't look/that she ddn't post everything because it has put me off big time

Yep I know I am weird... but has anyone else done this and did it put them off?

@Nosurveysneeded yes I briefly looked at my now partners ex at the start of our relationship. I was slightly put off because she had an older child and was really scruffy (I know that sounds mean but it's true) she uses foul language, post vile photos horrendously drunk. We were only 22! I was at the same time feeling a little better about myself that I was a definite improvement! But I did think eurgh really is this is standard of woman and does be put me in the same category as her? 😂

By the way before anyone flames me nothing to do with the child I was just shocked at 22 she had an older child and he decided to get in a relationship with a girl with a child at 19!

Well yes, I'm a nosey cow and my ex (from 20 years ago) has his FB profile as public, we're not friends, so why can't I have a good look! I am amazed he's been with his GF for over a year, he was one of those who gets bored and moves on every 6 months. I can see her profile and I'm dying to ask if he still has his massive collection of porn, brags about his penis and expects her to pay for everything, but of course I won't as I'm not a stalker.