Uh!

[Lady39]

Me and my partner had a minor disagreement. He always tells me to tell him how I feel about certain things but when I do and if he doesn't like it he gets all snappy and then he's cold with me for the rest of the day.

We don't live together and due to lockdown we aren't seeing eachother only communicating via calls and texts. So I'm feeling a bit crappy anyway because I miss him like mad. Generally our relationship is pretty much perfect.

It basically makes me feel like shit when he's like this with me. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

He always tells me to tell him how I feel about certain things but when I do and if he doesn't like it he gets all snappy and then he's cold with me for the rest of the day.

It basically makes me feel like shit when he's like this with me.

And yet you also say this:

Generally our relationship is pretty much perfect.

Your relationship is not pretty much perfect!

You sound like you might be very young and romanticising the relationship - putting it on a pedestal when in reality it doesn't sound like he's kind to you when it matters and it sounds like you have really poor communication between you.

Is this your first relationship? How long have you been together?

I know I tended to forgive a lot more in relationships at a younger age as I didn't have anything to compare them to.

So your relationship is perfect as long as everything is like he wants it to be?

At best he is dismissive of your feelings and thoughts,, at worst he is abusive. Not leaping to the second one just based on one detail, but if I were you I would definitely pay more attention to see if there are any other red flags.

Were not young im 39 he's 49 definitely not my first relationship I've just never experienced anything like this before