Ok first post here and very nervous, just looking for advice from someone who maybe in the past has been in a similar position. Here goes , bit of background - I have been married for about 15 years, my husband is not English and comes from a Muslim country. We have two children under 15, I am in a professional job and have been in this position for about 25 years. We have never had the best relationship and to be honest in the back of my mind it has worried me about him taking the children abroad when they were young, so I felt I had to wait until they were older.
He is currently not working and over the last five years has only worked for about eight months, he does no DIY, does not take the children out or actually do anything with them, but does do most of the cooking and some cleaning, and for a long time now has been shouting, arguing and being emotionally abusive towards me. So I have made the decision to end this marriage, I have told him I do not want to be with him, he shouted back that he does not want to be with me, a few days later I text him to say I was contacting a solicitor, he did not acknowledge this verbally to me but obviously read my text. So since then he has become quite nasty accusing me and everyone else of things that are just down right stupid.
I have been unhappy for a long time but lockdown has made me realize that I just do not want to be with him, so has anyone been in a similar position? Best case is he gets a job and a flat but I think he is going to make things difficult, both names are on the mortgage, he currently has no income but has said beftore he would never leave the house. This is very hard for me so helpful suggestions would be beneficial and I don't need telling I should have done something before now as I was not in a position to.