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I’ve failed as a parent

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Namechangeeer · 21/05/2020 12:02

Hi,
I’ve named changed for this as I am so ashamed of my behaviour.

My son and I have been staying with my mum and brother during lockdown. I have been really unwell And still am (not Covid related) so she has been a massive help with childcare and I can’t really fault her.

Today my 16 year old brother has went and met someone from a separate household. Which is fair enough if they were social distancing but they weren’t- he got into the car with them and has went off out.

This has stemmed into a massive argument with my mum and I. Apparently I have issues with everything he does etc etc. I don’t- he just treats my mum bad but that is a separate story.

The argument turned into shouting, me crying and some names been thrown back and fourth with her then asking me to leave.

I feel like I have failed as a mother, my son is still there as I have had to come back to our house and I have no shopping in etc and literally do not have the energy with being so poorly. My best friend has said she will go to Sainsbury’s in the morning then I will go for him.

I just feel awful, the argument escalated and it was all infront Of my little boy and I feel so guilty, I can’t stop crying and I know I’m in the wrong so please don’t make me feel any worse. My mum and I were both in the wrong, I’m not blaming her at all but I tried to call a truce and she just went on and on.

I don’t kbow why I’m posting, I just feel so down and had nowhere to vent. And now I feel like the worst person in the world.

OP posts:
LittleWing80 · 21/05/2020 12:17

Hi OP, please don’t be so harsh on yourself. Life is tough and the added hardship we are all facing doesn’t help.
It wasn’t great losing your temper in front of your little one but sometimes it happens we are all human. I would like you have been very worried about your brother’s behaviour.
You have to assess how your health is I would say and see if you are well enough to look after lil one on your own. If you need help then it might be wise to move back to your mum’s. I think the lockdown rule would allow you to visit him at your mum’s but not sure your mum coming around to yours to help. Maybe someone will know.
Please don’t feel so guilty. Big hug.

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