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Should I go for counselling alone?

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1LoveMakeUp · 20/05/2020 17:39

Hi everyone, me and my dp are late 20’s, together 3 years and he’s just moved out. Throughout the relationship we’ve had bad communication from both sides resulting frequent arguing and a lot of hurt (No cheating)
He’s in a high pressure job so he’s often work stressed but his mood changed after one year together. He went from lively and fun to moody, up and down, depressed. We stopped having sex because he didn’t want it. That damaged me alot. He saw a doctor and was diagnosed with low testosterone with pituitary tumour. He’s starting treatment next week.

Aside from this, he has his good points that made me stay. He’s caring, generous, loving by his actions. He craves the family life and wants to provide. We both had similar goals, to settle down and have a family.

So forward to now, the arguing was overwhelming and I suggested he leave. It’s now been two weeks since we saw each other, still in contact via text/call. We’ve been discussing how we can go forward but I feel my heart and head isn’t fully into it. I am scared things will go back to the way they were before too.

I’ve been unable to leave my house, I have been spending everyday in bed unable to do anything, no appetite, can’t eat. All very unlike me. Why am I coping so badly? I can’t seem to make a decision on what to do either?

OP posts:
Lightline · 22/05/2020 18:29

Yes you should have some counselling sounds like you’ve been through quite a traumatic time. Also maybe have complete space from him, no calls or texts then see how you feel. It seems his circumstances have dominated your relationship

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