Are soulmates real?

[MummyGoingItAlone]

Just that. And if they are, how do you know if you’ve found them?

Just a sunny day musing 😊

I think there’s a few people in the world who we could be compatible with and could spend our life with and be truly happy, not just the one person

Absolutely 100% what @Tootletum said.
I've had one definite soulmate and one probable. Both absolute fucking nightmares as partners. Extremely intense relationships with an amazing connection but unstable.
I'd love a happy medium but I'm dramatic and I'm not sure that exists!

@whathewhatnow Yep, the highest highs and the lowest lows...you kinda grow out of it after a while!

Only in a Mills and Boon novel.

No. I've been with DH for 23 years and love him to bits, but if we split up (or had never met) I'm sure we'd both be happy with someone else.

There are 6 billion people on the planet. You will connect with some like they’re the limb you never knew you were missing, while others you could spend a lifetime with and still never truly understand. I don’t believe that there is 1 person for each of us. If that were the case, what are the odds that you would ever cross paths?

I was waiting for someone to post the Tim Minchin song.

No I don't believe in soul mates, and I'm happier not believing in them.
The way I see it, it means more if you choose to be with someone day after day rather than being predestined to be together.

Yes absolutely. For 20 years I shared music with my soul mate, whilst both of us were happily married to others. We have now grown apart, but can still read each other instantly.

I recently went to his 50th birthday party. It's a very special relationship. Too intense to do every day, but very special. Particularly because it has always been platonic. We have regularly shared beds and even sleeping bags, but always as a brother/sister bond.

I actually really miss him ATM :(

Soul mates, no.
Cell mates, more likely.

Yes they are real. But maybe not as you think a soulmate is.

A soulmate is someone you meet in this lifetime to grow and learn something from. This doesn't necessarily even mean romantic it could be anyone. In a romantic sense of if you believe you've met your soulmate it doesn't mean you will be together for life, it's a journey your two souls will take together for each souls purpose and then you will part when that mission is done.

Some soulmates do stay together throughout life but this depends on your souls journeys. Not all do.

Imo no.

I think that there's more than one person who ho is compatible with you.

Not in the sense that there is just the one person who is your soulmate. What would be the chances of ever crossing paths with that person in a world of billions of people? Or of even being in the same country at the same time?
Obviously there are people who form deep bonds with each other. But I don’t think soulmates is a thing (unless everybody has potentially hundreds/thousands of ‘soulmates’!)

No it's all rubbish. We have numerous good matches that exist. That's all.

I had a soulmate (he died). It was in no way a romantic connection and never would have been, but we “got” one another completely and would always be there for one another, even after years apart.

There are a few people who I have met who I have had an instant connection with.. like our souls are 'together'. felt very comfortable and relaxed and absolutely on the same wavelength...no work required. In that sense, I do believe in soulmates...

Don't all throw hate at me but both myself and my ex husband believe that we are soul mates, no in a romantic sense though. We met when we were 11 and are now in our mid thirties.

We are both re married and very much love our spouses. We just have a very weird connection. We a very alike and still very good friends. We get each other in a way that no one else does. We don't have a sexual relationship (we live in different countries) and there's no emotional affair either but whenever we talk to each other, even if it's online, you can just feel it, it's like an energy.

Some people might think that's horse shit and they are entitled to think that. I don't think soul mate has to mean lover.

I tell you why I believe in soul mates...

I met mine in Mexico in 2015 when I was 26 and just ended a 5 year relationship. Instant connection, insane attraction, taking for hours, I was just drawn to everything about him. He was also from the UK but somehow we lost each other that day and never got to exchange numbers. I would sometimes think to myself I hope one day somehow we’ll bump into each other again. 2 years later I started online dating and met someone I was insanely attracted to (very rare for me) I kept saying I felt like knew him from somewhere but couldn’t figure out where from. We spoke for a while then went on a date a week or so later and after saying hello to each other I sat down next to him he looked at me in a strange way and said “Oh my god it’s you” and I replied back “Of course it’s me, did you think I was a catfish?” and he said “No, you’re the girl I met in Mexico years ago don’t you remember?” Then I realised it was HIM! I honestly couldn’t believe my luck and couldn’t believe how I hadn’t realised it was him before. Turns out when we met in Mexico he was also just out of a long term relationship, so I doubt a relationship would have worked out between us at that point in time and he had only just moved local to where I lived for his work.

We’re now engaged and expecting a baby in October. I know it could just be a coincidence but we both feel it must be some sort of ‘fate’ we ended up together. He is 100% my soul mate.

What a beautiful story, lolli!

I don’t believe in soulmates at all, and think the concept is flawed. It’s also astonishing and deeply convenient that so many find their soulmate at school, living in their street, at work. I do not believe the universe works like that.

I do, however, believe in connections, and that there are a number of others, who we will feel deeply connected to, and it is up to us to put ourselves out there and these people will cross our paths, or they will cross ours. I think it is this leads others to believe in soulmates, and that they’ve found their soulmate.

I do believe some things are ‘bershart’, or fated. But soulmates, no.

Nope. A man positioning himself as your soul mate is usually narcissist and controlling and is carefully manipulating you. Lovely secure men don't spout that crap. If you hear it, run away.... I am very happily married long term to a man who is happy that we are different individuals but I have been severely burned by narcissists in the past

Yes I think so, DH & I met in our teens, been married over 25 years, he is my best friend, a brilliant dad & really cares for me.

So much has changed in our world since we met, bereavements, unfortunately I was dx with MS a few years ago, but I know we will be together, however tough life gets.

Not sure soul mates are a thing...however I did read this a while back which is 100% the case for me...and with DH fortunately too

Link would help lol

www.lovewhatmatters.com/we-only-fall-in-love-with-3-people-in-our-lifetime-each-one-for-a-specific-reason/

I believe in soulmates...but I also believe there are many more than one for each person. To me a soulmate is someone with whom things are easy and natural, Where there is that electricity and connection.