Physical pain during separation

[Complimentarytreats]

I’m separating from my H & we’re still living together. Half the time I’m fine and I chat to friends a lot on the phone about their lives and small talk but I’m not sleeping and I have chronic pain which has gotten really bad lately and I feel so scared and alone. Did anyone have a bad flare-up of pain during separation? I have a prescription from the GP but it doesn’t work. I’ve done so much therapy now I actually feel jaded from it but I know my system is way out of balance...

Yes, I did. A really extreme physical reaction which temporarily left me unable to walk at one point.

I also had anxiety, sleep problems, no appetite which eventually swung the other way and I ended up being the heaviest weight I've ever been.
I remember the severe discomfort and constant tummy ache and edgy feeling.
However, I was severely mentally abused (he was also stalking me) and I was later diagnosed with CPTSD.

I took up meditation, I started to think about every minor good thing I could do for myself, ie; painting my nails, listening to music etc.

My recovery was helped by challenging myself in my professional life, I switched careers, trained as something entirely different etc. That focus took my mind off the rumination and eventually I just moved on but it was hard and it was slow.

Thanks. I’m glad you’re better now. Your sharing really helps.

I have had days where I couldn’t move too. It’s only when I stop and think that I realise just how badly this is affecting me. I’m kicking myself for marrying the wrong person and getting it so wrong. My therapist is all about self-compassion which can be hard for me to cultivate. I’ve put on a lot of weight too as I’m comfort-eating. Really hope there’s some light at the end of this.

Yes - I felt physical pain too. Nothing too serious luckily but - like a constant ache in the stomach and also my skin started to get really itchy - like i was drawing blood a little from scratching so much. Stress can have a profound effect also on your physical well-being. Eating wise I had the opposite and stopped eating - I dropped 2 dress sizes when I really didn't have much excess to start with.
2 Years on all is well - I too have changed job roles to something more challenging and now divorce has all completed life is good. Good Luck

@Complimentarytreats try not to beat yourself up for making a decision that you now feel was wrong. We are only human and usually things arent clear until later down the line.

It is an awful feeling and I'll never forget that rotten time in my life so I understand how difficult it is to cultivate that self compassion that your therapist is encouraging.
It really us just baby steps and being gentle with yourself.

In the beginning I would spend most days crying in bed and I think I needed that in order to process everything and sleeping loads in order to allow my mind and body to recover.

But you can't linger there forever, you need eventually take those steps to a better future. What's done is done, focus forward and even if you take ten steps back, go forward again with hope.

Thanks so much.

It’s comforting to hear from people who have beeb there.

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