My DH and I have been together 15 years. Even after all that time, he bottles things up. I don’t mean issues between us, usually if he’s angry or upset about something in our relationship he’ll tell me. But he’s been a bit distracted lately, and he hinted tonight that there’s stuff going on at work that’s on his mind (sorry if TMI, but we were in bed and he couldn’t DTD. That’s really unlike him, but it’s happened a couple of times over the last few weeks). I asked him if he was ok and that’s when he mentioned work.
I’m a talker, and I felt shut out when he won’t talk to me about what’s going on in his mind. I realise it’s his mind, and I have no ‘right’ to know but I as a couple I feel like we should be able to share things.
Maybe I’m expecting too much. Should I ask him again what’s on his mind or just let him know that I’m here if he wants to talk and leave it at that?
How do you stop yourself fretting about it? I worry about him, I want him to be ok so I’m now wide awake and anxious while he’s asleep!