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Would you be upset by this?

31 replies

Ali2020 · 19/05/2020 17:14

I don’t live with my boyfriend and we haven’t seen each other since lockdown began.

We are missing each other but have been keeping in touch. Last night he asked me to send him some pictures of myself (nothing identifiable) so I did and we exchanged pics.

He then asked me to meet him for sex in some nearby woods. Hmm I refused and after about ten mi it’s of trying got persuade me, he then said, oh well, I’ll just have to see what’s on Pornhub.

Bearing in mind I’ve just sent him some pictures of myself, I think he was insensitive at best to then just ignore them and say he was going to masturbate to some porn.

I feel like my body is inadequate now. Am I being OTT?

I appreciate many of you might say that you wouldn’t be so stupid as to send such pictures but even if they were circulated to my parents and best friends, none of them would ever know it’s me.

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Mucklowe · 19/05/2020 17:19

He sounds grim. Too focused on sex. I would also be upset.

FTstepmum · 19/05/2020 17:30

Hmmm. I'd split if I were you. Sorry to be blunt, but it sounds like he just wants to shoot his load somewhere/anywhere.

You surely deserve more respect and consideration. Is he a genuinely loving, kind, considerate person to you and others? If not, leave him and don't look back. Xxx

Bluebird3456 · 19/05/2020 18:09

I wouldn't be that bothered about the porn thing itself (it sounds like he was joking?) but more his attitude. You don't say how long you've been together but if I was separated from my DH I'd be missing more than just his genitals! He spent ten minutes trying to 'persuade' you to have sex in some woods despite you already saying no, it doesn't scream respect to me.

HollowTalk · 19/05/2020 18:10

Ugh he sounds horrible! I wish you hadn't sent him the photos.

DuchessOfSofa · 19/05/2020 18:10

Asshole!

ScabbyHorse · 19/05/2020 18:13

Yeah what a prick

GilbertMarkham · 19/05/2020 18:24

Wow.

So his routine goes;

  • Send is some tit/arse/whatever pics luv
  • Give us a shag luv (in a forest?! Still breaking social distancing, possibility of being done for public indecency, cold, bitten by bugs etc.
  • No? Right I'll have to have a wank then, im off onto porn hub to find some wank material (with the implication that what you sent him wasbt enough) .

He's not exactly charming, discrete, respectful, refined, is he?

In fact he sounds like a fkg dickhead and yes, this would upset me. It would make me think I didn't want a relationship with him.

GilbertMarkham · 19/05/2020 18:27

He doesnt really sound like he respects you/women.

What's he like in other ways? (not that this isn't bad enough to dunp over).

Raidblunner · 19/05/2020 18:27

Selfish Twat simple as that! Meet up for sex in the woods, sounds like something out of swingers r us...

passerbye · 19/05/2020 18:28

What are you getting out of this relationship?

HollowTalk · 19/05/2020 18:29

Did anyone see that documentary about dogging, with the participants wearing animal masks? This guy reminds me of them, disconsolately looking around the woods in the middle of the night, looking for a random shag.

RozaDiPoza · 19/05/2020 18:35

Ew. He just wants to use you for sex. Block him.

Kimbo1974 · 19/05/2020 18:41

Sound like he's not that keen on being your partner, it's more about the sex for him

Holothane · 19/05/2020 18:42

Get rid he’s selfish imagine living together you say no to sex and him saying this.

Zaphodsotherhead · 19/05/2020 18:45

So, he's not missing your wit, your conversation, the hugs, your cooking, sitting down over a nice bottle of wine to chat....

...no, he's missing not having a regular shag. That really tells you everything, doesn't it. It's all about his dick.

NoMoreDickheads · 19/05/2020 18:50

He's a sleazeball who tries to pressure you into sex and gets in a strop when you don't give in.

If he was interested in a relationship, and respectful, he would be happy to meet you for a socially distanced date/chat at a park etc.

yikesanotherbooboo · 19/05/2020 18:53

Please don't see this man again he is repellant and you deserve more. Don't get dragged into feeling that the reason he doesn't respect you more is your looks or body . The reason is that he has no respect for women, it's not your fault , end it.

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Ali2020 · 19/05/2020 19:28

He often criticises my looks. I had sent him a pic of a new hairstyle I’d tried out and he said I looked miserable.

He doesn’t really add anything to my life other than upset and the occasional laugh.

I don’t think he does respect me.

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FTstepmum · 19/05/2020 19:35

He's a shithead. You deserve someone who encourages and lifts you.

Sounds like he would make your life miserable. Seriously, see this realisation as a lucky escape.

The one you're meant to be with will be loving, caring, kind and respectful. Stay clear of anyone who isn't.

Xxx

RaininSummer · 19/05/2020 19:43

This seems the ideal opportunity to dump him really. You haven't seen him in around 2 months so tell him you have realised that he brings little positive to your life and end it.

flowersandpetals123 · 19/05/2020 19:46

Do you not think you deserve better?
Why is that?

He sounds vile and you deserve so so much more than this!
X

Reallynowdear · 19/05/2020 20:05

He's showing you what happens when you say no to sex.

Just dump him x

Wafter · 19/05/2020 20:09

Nope. He's gross. He doesn't respect you. Bin him off!

Bubbletrouble43 · 19/05/2020 20:18

Yeah he sounds grim. Trust your gut. If something upsets you, there's a reason and don't ever let someone else invalidate your feelings.

backseatcookers · 19/05/2020 21:21

He often criticises my looks. I had sent him a pic of a new hairstyle I’d tried out and he said I looked miserable.

He doesn’t really add anything to my life other than upset and the occasional laugh.

I don’t think he does respect me.

What are you doing with this cunt?! Sack him off and spend some time on you. Ugh he makes my skin crawl and I don't even know the guy.