Living with an excessive pessimist

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Does anyone else live with a pessimist. A pessimist who is so extreme in his views and thoughts that at least once a day you think "I can't handle this anymore?"

I do. Please help with coping strategies as I'm seriously at the end of my fucking rope! 😒

Find a way to split up with him. You can have a much better life than this.

I suppose he could be depressed and benefit from treatment, though, in which case you might consider hanging around while he gets treatment, to see if it helps. If he's already seen a doctor/consultant at some point, he could go back and explain how he's feeling. There are dozens of things they can try, until they hit on something that works for the individual.

Investigate whether he's depressed, and if not, move on. I know someone who left her partner because he was just such a gloomy Eeyore who refused to change. It was like a huge weight was lifted.

Oh he's depressed. Has been for most of his adult life. Also dependant on alcohol. Refuses to do anything about it. He was prescribed AD's by Dr and to speak to someone about drinking but he won't... He promises he will. But he won't.

His excessive moping and whinging about never being able to buy a house made his mum and dad do an equity release on their property to give us a deposit for mortgage. However now we've got that we can realistically afford a 2 bed end of terrace. Perfectly reasonable for us, and 2 DD's (5&10mnt) but no.... He wants a 3bed house for life at our first time of buying and nothing else will do. Cue more moping and stomping of feet because he can get what HE wants. 🙄

Point out if he didn't drink he could have saved a fortune by now.

You do not need coping strategies; there is no coping with someone like him. You and he now need to be apart, its over and his actions have caused this to happen.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Do not keep on subjecting your own self and your kids to such a miserable life at his hands.

Are you really describing an alcoholic here?. Is he self medicating his depression by using alcohol?. That won't work out either if he is doing that, alcohol is itself a depressant. He has and is merely paying lip service to his alcohol problem whilst expecting you to clear up after him and his attendant mess and chaos.

Urgh, god they don't get any better. If they achieve whatever it is that they think is holding them back (like say a three-bedroom house) they'll be happy for about a month then it'll be something new to be grumpy about.

He's not helping himself by not addressing his mental health or drinking so why would getting the house he wants change anything long term?