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Confused

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Outinthec0ld · 18/05/2020 23:15

I started dating a woman who had just broken up with her husband. We had been friends before they seperate. She has told me how she disliked him, he wasn't the man she started dating, he was controlling, he was horrible to their kids, she no longer found he physically or mentally attractive. She told me how much she loved me, I was her soul mate, wished we had met sooner. We had an amazing chemistry and being together was electric, everything just clicked in to place for both of us. Out of the blue she dumped me and has gone back to her husband. I'm thinking it is for security, the family home and that he had little or no input with their children whilst they were apart which caused her stress. Since the breakup she texts me daily and phones on occasion, all just friendly. What is going on I am confused?

OP posts:
sunnydays78 · 19/05/2020 09:18

Op how long did you date her?

ArthurBloom · 19/05/2020 13:41

She chose her husband, for whatever reason she has, you may feel it is noble to wait, but in reality it is pathetic and you need to cut her out of your life, neither you nor her can properly move on whilst you linger on.

She will continue to use you to fill the gaps her husband misses, and you will continue to pine in the hope she leaves him for you, there does not seem to be a happy ending here for either of you if you remain in this status quo.

hellsbellsmelons · 19/05/2020 14:21

You were her rebound.
She love bombed you - google it!
You stroked her ego when she needed it.
She used you to make herself feel better.
No she is keeping you on the back burner - you are her fall back person!
Block - Ignore - Delete
You will send yourself crazy if you keep in contact.
Your life will pass you by while you are waiting for her.
She has made her decision.
Respect that and move on with your life.
Find your own happiness.

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