Partner not gambling again but....

[Whaleandthesnail]

So my DH has, in the past, had an issue with online gambling. Running up debt without telling me etc. Happened countless times. About a year ago i finally hit my end point after he gambled AGAIN despite promising not to. He eventually got some counselling and hasn't gambled for over a year.

I've just checked his online banking (he knows I have access to it, I don't check it constantly but do from time to time mainly to put my mind at rest that he is not gambling any more). Anyway i can see multiple transactions coming out of his account since around the time lockdown started for £6.99 through Apple in app purchases. I'm 99% sure he isn't gambling again but I think he is playing one of those candy crush type games and buying sets of lives (or whatever they are called). He's spent over £100 in the past 4 weeks. We can afford it, but for me I'm thinking this means his gambling addiction is still there. Yes, he isn't gambling for money but he js playing an online game and spending unnecessarily on it.

Can I get a bit of perspective please before I speak to him about it? I feel this is about as close to online gambling you can get, without actually gambling, so feel let down. But on the other hand, maybe it isn't a big deal. I'd be interested to know if I'm within my rights to feel upset about this.

Op, I know it's hard, I've been there, I was financially secure with money in the bank and a house I loved (albeit rented) and didn't struggle for anything. Met someone and tbf he was clever, took him over a year to make his move, he stole my bank and credit cards just before Christmas and spent thousands leaving me penniless and at risk of being made homeless, this was way after the acting that had me paying a grand to get his car fixed and paying for all nights out etc. Obv I was being taken for a twat but had no inkling he had any sort of problem. 5 years down the line I'm still struggling. I've found out since he's done this to many people including his own mum and sister. Gambling is a very dangerous addiction and addicts are clever at hiding it. Walk away, you will lose everything because his addiction is more powerful than anyone or anything in his life.

I am in a relationship with a gambling addict. He does an-app purchases for his game on his phone, which he has always been upfront about.

I know I'm going against the grain here but I also keep an eye on the in-app purchases and - for DH - it doesn't go up it is always the same amount.

I personally don't class it as gambling as there is no monetary win no matter how much he spends on it. DH was in it for the money....

Can you see how much it has been and if it has gone up?

This is no way to live. Please do yourself a favour and make your own life secure. While attached to him it never will be. My exh was an a gambling addict.