I can't fucking stand sleeping with my husband. SHUT THE FUCK UP!! Gahhh

[SHUTUPPLEASEEE]

I love him to pieces but oh my god I'm ready to smother him with a pillow.

It's not snoring necessarily but it's a loud clicking sound that he makes when he breathes at night because he has his mouth wide open and I can't FUCKING STAND IT ANYMORE.

I never wanted to be someone who slept separately from their partner but it really is making me so grumpy at night.

Once it starts I can't focus on anything else, he'll stop for maybe two minutes and then it starts up again. Nudging him only works for a few minutes then it's back. I could seriously cry, I'm spending another night on the sofa tonight.

I have ear plugs but tbh they are painful, I end up with sore ears and have to take them out. Does anyone have any recommendations for good ones?

My last nerve is slowly being shredded 😵

I know exactly how you feel I'd love my own room, thankfully my husband now works nights so I only have to suffer it two nights a week. X

I use Howard Leight earplugs (the pink and yellow ones). I accidentally ordered a bag of 200 last time so I’d be happy to post you a few to try out! Just PM me your address and I’ll pop them in the post for you.

My DP is a really loud snorer but luckily is only here half the time so my ears get a rest from the plugs when he’s not here. Otherwise they do get sore.

One night on holiday his snoring was so bad, I had earplugs and was playing white noise/rainforest sounds on my phone strapped to my head to try and drown it out! In the end I raided the mini bar to try and get drunk enough to sleep. That was a terrible night! I think it was after that holiday that I bought separate beds for my house

The fun part though, is that I’m suffering at the moment with having put on weight and sleeping very heavily due to medication, so now my snoring is keeping him awake - karma bitch.

He apparently tried to wake me the other night but I was so deep asleep it didn’t work (luckily for him as I’d have been furious having put up with it from him all this time!) - he ended up sleeping downstairs. After 8 years of it being the other way round, and me having to be the one to fix it, I’m struggling to feel sympathy for him!

The headband headphones sound exactly what I need! I will take a look thank you 😊

I have a similar issue, some nights I just can’t tolerate it (4/7 nights) some nights I can just sleep through it (twice a year) and the other nights I go to bed 10 minutes before him and take a drowsy antihistamine and then don’t remember him coming to bed or hear him get up!

I'm not sure if it this is always the case but where I live there is a dentist who can help with this kind of problem. I don't live in the UK but a friends DH snored really badly and was always tired. He was given some kind of device for his mouth to sleep in which cured the snoring and made him realise how little sleep he had been getting.

Try headphone on a headband. You can plug them in or bluetooth them to a white noise app on your phone. Just make sure you put the doonot disturb on for sleeping hours or you will jolt bolt upright in bed everytime you get a notification

Someone's already mentioned sleep apnea, I think you should make him go to the GP and get tested for it. There are kits that you can use at home.

I've got to be tested for it as I've been keeping DH awake with my strange noises.

I have same issue with my OH and I'm 38 weeks' pregnant! No spare room and obviously ear plugs won't be an option for me!! It's sooooooo crap!

OP, Do you have a spare room? That or ear plugs will be your solution

My husband is in his room, I'm in mine.. he started snoring every night around August 2019, he's tried strips, nose sprays all kinds of stuff, but he still snores.

He's the other side of the house, I'm up faffing on my phone and I can hear him snoring.

It got to the point of me crying for about three nights running with sheer frustration at being woken up, when I had meetings, deadlines I was exhausted and snappy, so I finally told him out.

It's been bliss, I can faff till whatever time I like, read my books, make a cuppa watch tv and sleep, like a baby.

He on the other hand doesn't think this is a permanent thing? But until he stops I can't face the thought of him being next to me.

A speaker pillow might help you with white noise.

Also, has he tried taking an anti histamine? My nose gets blocked up as soon as I lie down on feather pillows. No issue with other pillows. So, maybe change his pillows or he could take an anti histamine tablet half an hour before bed?

Partner snores

He also cant sleep unless the tv is on

I need peace and quiet.
He hates us sleeping apart.
But its his fault.

When we go to a hotel, i wear ear plugs, and a eye mask and get a room with two beds :)

Snore strips are really great but expensive for long term use. Worth a temporary measure to regain your sleep and sanity though.

My husband sounds like at least twenty six bulldozers actively at work in the bedroom

It's absolutely ridiculous.

He sleeps separately as it's so loud. Not an issue as I can't cope with it.

Sex life and relationship is fine - I just can't sleep with him all night because of the racquet he makes ...

You have my deepest sympathies. My husband is a nightmare to sleep next to. If I dont get to sleep before him, I've had it. My two year old has just woke me up so now there's now chance of me getting back to sleep, so another loooooong lockdown day to be faced on next to no sleep! Woohoo
I have a fan aimed directly at my face to try and block out the noise. Sometimes it works, mostly it just makes my forehead cold and gives me a headache. I can't sleep with ear plugs in because I need to listen out for the kids. It's a pain in the arse. If we had a spare room, I would 100% sleep separately from him.

Sleep separately if you can. I wish we had a spare room. My husband's snoring is,driving me insane. I usually sleep from 5 to 7 before his snoring wakes me again (or my baby kicks my bladder)and then just have to nap as and when. He's actually lost weigh since lockdown and his snoring is worse. He has sleep apnea and has a machine for sleeping but doesn't use it if he's been drinking and tbh it doesn't really help anyway.

Why do you have 2 separate threads about this *OP"?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3911404-Aibu-to-smother-DH-with-my-pillow

I though the title to this was 'SHUT THE FUCK UP GAVIN!!!

Poor Gavin.

The bioears earplugs are in tesco for £6 a packet, cheapest place I've found to get them.

My OH snores a ridiculous amount. He will stay awake until I've drifted off, playing on his phone. If I wake in the night though I'm fucked so either I go to the sofa or I wake him and he goes. I'm getting some nytol when I remember to see if that makes a difference

You can get these great headphones for sleeping by Acoustic Sheep- it's basically a flat headband so really comfy. I love mine, and they drown out any sound.

I never wanted to be the kind of person who slept separately to a partner... but DHs night noise was too much so he got packed off to the spare room. Now we have dc2 eventually that room will be his and dh will come back into our room 😭 I've suggested we upsize to a 4bed house but not sure we can swing it.

Like your dh, OP, it's not the snoring it's the clicking with heavy mouth breathing but with interspersed snoring. It's so fucking loud!!! I can hear him from the other room some nights, it sets of the babies white noise thing it's so loud 🤬

I've always suffered with blocked sinuses until I started to take citirizine regularly. Worth a try.

Can he not just rub some Vicks on his nostrils before bed so they don't feel so blocked?

I'm currently on the sofa and can still hear my DH snoring. Good tips about earplugs here......