Been in a LDR for 2 years. Communication has been a recurring issue - neither of us like to be vulnerable or open up.
Since lockdown I realised we were going days without communicating. I began to think and analyse this to the point where it was stressing me out all the time. I spoke to him and he agreed there had been a weird vibe lately and we agreed to take a 2 week communication break.
When we spoke last week, I told him it felt a weight had come off my shoulders. Because I knew communication was off the table, I didn’t stress about it. We agreed something wasn’t working before the break but we’re reluctant to end thing because lockdown may mean we’re not seeing things clearly.
He was quite cold and distant during our chat and I felt he was hugely unhappy with the relationship. I asked if he wanted to break up and he said no, but when lockdown is over we’ll need some “quite difficult conversations” if we’re “to go back to being a couple”.
We kind of agreed to extend the break - he said the next time we speak, he would prefer to do it by text as he finds it easier to express himself. This worries me because I think the longer we go without hearing each other’s voice, the wider the gap between us will become. I’m also a bit hurt he wouldn’t WANT to talk to me properly
I called him then next day to clarify some points and he sounded irritated for most of the call. I feel like I’m in no mans land now - I suppose technically we’re together but it doesn’t feel like it. I was going to suggest meeting up for a socially distanced walk but his tone put me off.
Just feel lost and not sure which way is up.
I know the above probably makes me sound really passive but I’m terrible with making myself vulnerable - especially when he’s (maybe inadvertently) coming across so cold.
Help?