Would you mention your period beforehand?

[LayItDown]

So... FWB due round tomorrow. I got my period yesterday but on new pill so no idea how long it will last/ how heavy it will be.

We’ve always just gone to each other’s houses and fucked - stayed over, but no dinner, no morning coffee. Nothing.

He’s been texting the past couple of weeks about us going out on dates and then today he suggested we cook dinner together tomorrow. I’ve never ‘dated’ him before (other than our first meeting), so it’s a bit unexpected but actually, I’m kind of excited about having a date.

So now I’m confused. If I knew he was just coming over for sex (which would be on the cards), I’d say not now and postpone. But now I don’t know - do I give him a head up and let him make his mind up? Do I not say anything and just mention it when he’s here? What do I do?

No experience of sponges but I use a menstrual cup and had sex with it in no problem, no mess. Not sure about on the heaviest of days though. I think the man would know though, my partner could feel the cup at times.

The sponges are soft so I've never had complaints. The cup, I find I stress about it leaking under pressure but this has never happened. Zero blood visible is quite impressive I think

As you've had a relationship based purely on sex then it would be polite & prudent to let him know. I've never been involved in an FWB arrangement so I'm not quite sure what the etiquette would be. In a conventional relationship a partner would mention it with regard to feeling unwell.

This is my first FWB arrangement so it’s a bit of a minefield to me to know what’s appropriate or not. But I considered this morning that even if he’s talking about lightly dating, I’m not even sure I want that the moment. So cancelling just seemed the best option.

There might be more there, but I don’t really want to throw either of us in the deep end to determine that right now (after not seeing him for 8 weeks). I’d rather resume our normal meet-ups, but catch up with some food and wine and chat for a bit in between and decide that then.

We are probably both lonely right now so our minds are jumping to other possibilities when, in all honestly, we are in a FWB situation because we are poorly suited. I’ll see him later in the week and decide then.

FWB of reminds me of the TV programe 'Naked Attraction'
Sort of dating in reverse.

I would as ime most men I’ve met won’t go there when I’ve been on my period. My ex would never do period sex mind you it wasn’t my thing either so yes I would mention it.