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They are married and relatively happy at hone. Do you think it’s possible?

No. I think it's possible to become infatuated, but that's a whole different ball game.

Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Sure.

Is it remotely moral to let it get to the point where you have feelings for someone else when you are married? Hell no.

It’s not really possible to be ‘in love’ with two people in the truest sense of the term I.e. being completely infatuated and head over heels etc.
Just chemically that isn’t possible even though some scientists may disagree.

Whenever I’ve been properly in love with someone I wouldn’t even look in the direction of another person, I only had eyes for that person.

It’s possible you can have a happy home life and love (we can debate what the fuck this actually means though) your husband then be infatuated with someone else and fall in love with them yes. This happens a lot.

Yes the person not in that marriage can fall in love with the married person. The married person is using them for whatever they don't have in their marriage or whatever they fancy a bit extra of.

Person #2 will always be second best, or the married person would leave their spouse.

Wait til the person's left their spouse before you date/shag them- or date/shag one of the billions of other people in this world.

Of course it’s possible. Love is logical, it just is.

I absolutely believe this is possible

I think it's possible. You meet someone and think shit they are the male version of me. But sometimes, you just have to think maybe there is reason you didn't meet them earlier in life. It wasn't meant to be.

“I think it's possible. You meet someone and think shit they are the male version of me. But sometimes, you just have to think maybe there is reason you didn't meet them earlier in life. It wasn't meant to be.”

This. I developed very strong feelings for a colleague some years ago. It was a revelation to me because I had never before felt that strongly for someone I wasn’t in a relationship with. And also because I realised it made not a jot of difference to how I felt about my DH and had absolutely no wish to leave my DH for the OM (not that that was being offered - I never shared any of this with the OM - but wouldn’t have wanted to leave DH anyway). It did make for some tasty fantasies, I confess, but never went beyond that. And after a couple of years, it blew itself out. Which was a relief but I learned a great deal from the experience.

Categorically it is possible (and I think the infatuation PP talks about is not ‘love’ per se...but you can have that feeling and still have an older more mature love for someone else).

What you do about it, however, depends on how you’ve set up your relationship.

I fell in love with my AP and I stopped loving my DH, I wasn't unhappy at home, but only because I'd resigned myself to no affection or passion.

@Dery did you still see him or did it blow out because you no longer had contact?
I have no intention of doing anything. I was planning on changing jobs to get away but it’s not looking likely now. It’s interesting that you just lived with it and it passed, thanks 😊