Body confidence after children

[PeachPie30]

I may be starting a new relationship and haven’t had sex with a new partner for over 15 years. Since then I have had 2 c sections and have a wrinkly belly and a bit of fat over my scar. I’m a normal BMI and otherwise feel attractive enough.

Should I just act like I’m totally body confident? My natural instinct is to apologise for the state of my stomach but I’m guessing that will be even more offputting?!

100% do not apologise - you have grown and birthed children, you do not need to apologise for the way your stomach is because of it. If he is a decent bloke, he won't care.

Thanks. I won’t apologise and will hope that, if I act body confident then he won’t notice or care.

If it makes you feel more confident you can always wear a nice chemise type slip? I have the same issue and I find wearing these helps my confidence. Do not apologise though!!!

Gosh, I remember the fear you are having now. When it came too it though, I was far too busy enjoying the moment to be self conscious.
I promise you it will be ok, now go get your man.

I'm assuming he's pretty middle aged too?

I don't think he'll mind OP! He fancies you and wants sex with you - apologising for perceived defects just draws attention to them. Don't apologise, just go for it!

He’s middle aged too.

Agree with the other comments! Do not apologise for your body or anything else in life that you cannot control.

I was on a beach last year with a lot of topless women, me included, no big deal there. Then a woman came out the sea (topless) who had one breast removed. I take my hat off to her. She will never know it, but she will always be my leading light as an example of how we should be when it comes to body confidence.

Now get ye to bed and have a nice time; you’ve been waiting long enough!