Update; convinced OH is cheating...

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I replied to her message about me being a silly girl (told her we’re engaged and I’m not just a baby mom) I did this to see how she’d react, angry jealous etc and she ignored my message but writ a status about how a certain man is a ‘tramp’ and she now wants to move area. I then asked OH Why someone called (her first name) was messaging about him and he instantly knew it was her and said she’s a mess who lives down road (I know lovely man!) I’m guessing he’s trying to throw me off the scent with insults. He didn’t want to know why she’d message, what she’d said or anything.. he just changed the subject. He was then on the phone to the contract company moaning that he’s meant to have next day delivery and why isn’t it here (it’s coming tomorrow). He got very defensive when I repeatedly asked why he’d blocked her and didn’t have a reason. I’m not 100% sure what to think?

Really? Think it’s pretty clear. Although I haven’t read your other thread and I have no idea of the back story

Oh my word ! Give your head a wobble! You know the answer - hes guilty as sin!!

Which bit is unclear? Dont wait for him to give you some mea culpa- he wont and he is minimising. You have everything you need to know- but are likely in the denial stage of grieving.

Others have good financial advice about protecting yourself.

I definitely don’t want to believe it, I feel broken if I’m honest I just can’t believe it’s true. Im going to tell him I know what he’s been up to. He’ll deny it no doubt. Part of me wishes I hadn’t investigated but I needed to know 😭

Love, why are you discussing all this with him? What do you want him to say? He will only lie more and more, hes not your friend, you realise that dont you?

Just leave it. Do you live with him? If so, is there somewhere else you can go to get away from him, somewhere you can be taken care of e.g. parents, best friends?

No one else we can go, and he’ll keep denying and won’t leave (house is in both our names)

Can you make a separate living space for yourself in the house?

Do you have friends who you can phone/video chat with? You need to fill your days with something besides this guy and his ridiculous shenanigans. He is a worthless partner, there is nothing he can give you right now that would improve your life.

It's really confusing you have so many threads about this with the same username at the same time, it's easier for everyone to respond if you stick to one of them.

Not sure why you don't want to do that - if you're worried about someone IRL finding a previous thread you need to name change.

FWIW he sounds like an absolute dick. I think you need to stop looking at / contacting her, focus on what you can control - your own behaviour. Tell him it's over and if he won't leave (if it's a joint home) then set some ground rules - you don't want to share a room with him any more and you need a plan for separating.

I think it's really obvious that he's cheating on you OP.
He won't admit it, unless you have hard evidence to wave in his face, even then he'll probably still try and lie his way out of it.

I think I remember your previous thread, you have 3 kids together?

I know it's heart breaking but do you really want to be with someone who cheats on you? You'll never be able to trust him.

I am sorry that you are in this difficult situation, OP.

You detailed his dodgy behavior in your 5/12 and 5/14 threads. He is clearly cheating, but is going to continue denying and stonewalling. He feels entitled to treat you with utter disregard.

I agree with others. If you cannot leave right now and he won’t, you need to end things and separate from him in the home while making exit plans.

There was no need for another thread. He's cheating. It's obvious.