Yes, I’ve been separated for almost a year and still living together. All very amicable (down to me) as I don’t want my children dealing with an uncomfortable environment particularly as being in lockdown is hard enough. I cook all meals, wash clothes & dishes, do housework and work from home part time. He pays majority of bills, pays for most of the food shopping, does the weekly household ironing and works daily from home. So it’s the same as it was before.
We are pleasant with one another, it’s like living with a flat mate (not friend as we broke up due to his betrayal). Before lockdown, there was an attempt on violence towards me in front of the kids which I will never forgive him for. I had him arrested but since then, he has been calm. I don’t trust him, never will again.
I’ve had friends say they think we might get back together during lockdown but the love has gone for him, I love myself far more than to ‘make do’ and quite honestly, I’d rather be alone and find out who I really am. We were together for 20 years, married for 16. The only difficulty I have found is hearing calls to other women and have seen pictures of him with other women that was taken before lockdown. As much as it made me feel uncomfortable, not enough to make me upset or angry as my feelings have evolved so I’ve been going on as usual.
I also have a ‘friends with benefits’ situation with a single friend (knew him as a child, hadn’t been in touch with him for 30 years and it’s a different level of openness, honesty and trust that I have had with anybody) but not seen him for two months. We speak most days on the phone, that keeps me going and is enough for me.
I can’t wait to leave this house, it is not like home anymore. I’m so looking forward to starting a new life with my children.