Cheating partner?

[Jordimum]

Would you believe a stranger is they told you your partner was cheating?

If they gave you messages that matched when you were out, his number and picture etc.

If your partner is adamant that he hasn’t cheated and says it’s a load of rubbish and a jealous ex?

I read your other thread and wondered how his ex would have his new number.

Btw, classical denial tactics by your BF. Been there, heard exactly the same lines then found out he was a cheat.

Even though you saw the evidence for yourself, know there is no way she would have his new details unless they were in contact, you still cling onto his poor excuses and dismissive comments about a crazy ex. Sounds like you really want to believe him and it will go away.

One question though, did you read the messages? Did you recognise his message style? Sound like how he messages, things he would say?

If the messages didnt resemble anything he would say, way he spells/ abbreviates etc then he could be telling the truth big stretch

I think as someone has said the writings on the wall! Perhaps however painful, you need to open your eyes and read it.
Text messages all have a date & time when they were sent along with the senders number. Even if he deleted them from his phone they'll be there on hers. Furthermore people will swear on this and swear on that it's all hearsay and means nothing. He's in denial because he knows ultimately he's going to lose it all for a casual shag.

Aaah I was so behind you on your other thread. You’re not stupid so don’t try to pretend you are, don’t fall for this shit. He’s a liar and he’s a cheat.
If you want him anyway, fine, but don’t mug yourself off by letting him think you believe his excuses, it’s such a pile of wank.

Thanks all, He’s clearly gaslighting me but because I’m so emotional wanted to hear from people to help me see sense.

You know he's cheating.

You know he's lying about it.

You want someone to tell you what to do about it but only you can decide that.

Personally I strongly think you need to break up with him. He's cheated on you, lied and lied and would rather you felt guilty and shit about yourself than tell the truth.

He sounds like a repeat offender - so easy for him to lie and go into attack mode rather than any empathy for you.

Fuck him off, surely your bar isn't this low? He doesn't deserve all this headspace.

He is manipulating you, OP. Surely you know that some cheaters never admit their wrongdoing, even in the face of evidence. They are determined to control the narrative, and their ability to deceive goes deep. Swearing on children’s lives is standard Script.

You have spoken with OW’s husband. He has provided irrefutable information: screenshots of the messages which include your partner’s new number, photo, and the very dates & times you were out working.

Please don’t diminish yourself by believing his lie that he was “set up.”

If someone goes to the trouble of telling you something either they are really twisted or it is true.

Of course, he will say it is a psycho ex, but IME, if any of it rings true, it will be true.