Advice on his family...

[Doingitaloneandproud]

Hi everyone... So I find myself in a situation I don't know what to do in and was hoping for some advice if possible or if anyones had anything similar!

I've been with my BF since late last year now, and he's been single since the year previous - he had a long term relationship circa 10 years and 2 kids, no cheating, he realised they were only friends, she did not want the split. He sees the kids a few times a week, they stay over his, takes them to school etc so hands on dad

Problem is his family, they weren't happy with the split, his mum has categorically stated she will not welcome him being with another woman, the ex will be invited to all Christmas/birthdays/special occasions, and on trips to their country home. (For clarity, this has been confirmed by my dads friend, who is my BF's uncle type person, he said the family are quite nasty people and won't ever be nice to me)

So how do I proceed? I have spoken to my BF and said if he's happy with me as he says he is, I'm his future etc (his words) then he needs to make a point of showing it to them really, there's nothing of us on social media, aside from the ex tagging him in random stuff once a week he doesn't post since late last year. I know social media is not important but it's beginning to grate on me.

We text last night about it and he's doing his usual now of ignoring me to show he isn't happy. He's done it a few times and I've said each time I don't want to be with someone like that, my dad ignores my mum if annoyed and I think it's a childish way to behave.

Any advice please - I have no idea if I just carry on with him and just see if anything changes, and if it doesn't can a relationship work without his family liking / involving you?

Sensible decision. As for "getting it right one day", well you couldn't have known what he was like beforehand. You tried him out, and when it seemed rather dodgy you avoided any further investment. That's getting it right.

Thank you all, I did forget how hard it is to not talk to someone you're used to talking to everyday through the day but I am just remembering that I deserve someone who can stand up for me and doesn't ignore me when they feel like it

He was definitely split from her, they both had brought new houses the year prior to us meeting, so it was completely over. It just seems to be his family will never be happy unless he's with her, thing is in a way I feel sorry for him, he's stuck with a family like that who will never be happy for him unless he's back with someone he doesn't want to be with. That's his issue to deal with

Thank you, I'm going to remember that about getting it right, I definitely want my son to never think it's right treating someone poorly