First person he met is his friend?

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So today your allowed to meet one person in the park 2 meter rule.
Well the first person the guy I'm seeing meets is his friend.
Hasn't even mentioned meeting me.
We were texting then 2 hours ago he vanished.
Uploading pics of him and his friend on Snapchat.
I don't know if I'm being a bit of a mardy arse..but would this annoy anyone else?
Can't even be bothered to text me back in 2 hours.
Yet he can faff on with his snapchat.

It’s not great, is it? How long have you been together?

He's the guy you're seeing?What's the history, how long have you been seeing him, is it a fwb or a relationship?

At “seeing” level it is not that you should be getting angry at not being the first. At the end of the day, it is not that he had a single chance to meet with someone and he blown it.

I have a feeling if you were allowed to touch the person, you'd have been first. It does rather smell like he prefers to talk to his friend than you.

It's been 8 months.
I don't even know what we are tbh.
I just know I miss him and would love to have met him today.
No such luck.
I'm annoyed that he can't even text me back too.
It's like once he's out there doing things ..I'm forgotten.

Wouldn’t annoy me. It’s not like he can’t see you now. Have you even mentioned meeting him?

8 months? Really?

He’s just not that into you 😕

Ah 8 months of seeing him not away from each other! (Sorry)

He may not be that in to you or it may be that it was his friend who had the initiative to organise a meet up quicker.

Have you organised something to meet? If not, he may just have accepted an invitation that arrived sooner.

8 months? He obviously sees your relationship as less important than you do. I'm sorry you're feeling upset but please don't allow him to belittle your feelings. 💐

He didn’t text you back for 2 hours and you are acting like this? 🧐

Instinctively, people would want to see their "partner" (or on-path-to-partner girlfriend) as soon as possible. They would viscerally miss them. He still sees his mate as #1, which is fine, but after 8 months together, I wouldnt see that changing and therefore wouldn't see this as a relationship to go the distance.

It's a "right now" relationship only, at least to him. Sorry OP.

Not even knowing what you are is exactly what he wants. Probay meeting his friend first and posting about it deliberately to keep you in your place of wondering wtf he wants from you.

Also, not knowing what you are after 3 months...maybe. After 8 though? He's taking the piss. And you're letting him.

Did you discuss meeting up? I would find it too hard to meet up and not touch

We haven't spoke about meeting up.
It would be difficult not to get too close.
I just thought it's better than nothing.

I just thought it's better than nothing.

And he just thought "there's no point if there's no shagging"

Or he went for a walk and bumped into his mate? Or had to return something? Or cos you haven't ask to me, so he thinks you don't want to?

Did your last text contain question that needed an immediate reply or was it just a normal chat? It's only 2 hours. He might have been about to reply, then bumped into mate, got all excited about seeing another human being, and just forgot.

I'm a total cynic usually, but I can't see an issue here. He didn't blow you out for his mate. He hasn't vanished for days.

He’s not interested in talking to you. He just wants to shag you. At least you now know where you stand

Go and meet up with your friend post yourself having fun and happy and get on with your life if he's bothered he'll come running but why are you dwelling on this when you know he's getting on with his life and not stressing about what's going on with you?

Agree with PP.
You have your place in his life, OP. And it's not before his friends.

I have not seen my partner in 7 weeks, I do miss him but contrary to what I expected, I am not desperate to run and meet him in person straight away. I think I will find it very hard seeing him after all this time and not being able to hug him or sit near to each other. It scares me I would end up feeling worse after I see him when I am already struggling to keep my shit together through all this on my own.

I think you have bigger issues which is that at 8 months datibg someone you refer it too seeing someone.. I would think that at 8 months you guys were serious enough that you would be the first person he would meet

And that you would call him your boyfriend not the guy your seeing

I agree that if the rule didn’t mean no touching, then you’d have been first.

But, you can’t complain that he hasn’t mentioned meeting up to you when you haven’t mentioned it to him either.