Help to get over him!

[Flamingo89]

I’m 30, broke up with my long term narcissistic partner in October and moved to stay with my parents since whilst I save to pay of some debts. I got back in contact with my high school sweetheart and we have been seeing eachother for a few months, however he had a girlfriend and like an idiot I believed that he was going to leave her and it all went further than intended. It’s stopped now and all come out in the open and they are trying to work things out because they have a baby. I feel like I’m not entitled to feel heartbroken because he was never mine in the first place but I really do. I feel very worthless at the moment and like I’m never going to meet anyone worthwhile.

Just take it as a lesson learned not to get involved with someone who's still in a relationship- wait until they've left their OH. Just go 'I was a bit stupid there, I won't do that again.' (No moral judgement from me, I've 'known' a lot of men in relationships, but have come to realize it's completely unnecessary- there are billions of men in the world and some would be equally good, and single. We don't have to get involved with ones that are in relationships. If they really love you/don't love their OH, they'll be happy to leave before starting anything.)

You could also write a list of anything else he did that was unpleasant, to put yourself off him. If you're missing him or anything then look at the list.

Get angry basically. He led you on.

Don't repeat the mistake. Learn from this experience. Keep things simple. The next guy needs to deserve you and that means being single. Not in an “it’s complicated” situation. Single.

Girl Code! Never date someone in a relationship. You wouldn't like it.