She is 17. She sees "no point in going on". She is Year 12 and has been doing work sent by school. Is a good but quiet student, largely ignored at school.
She was a very happy, competitive child who loved school and sport until two years ago when it is like someone took DD and replaced her with a lookalike with a totally different personality. This one is sad all the time, hates herself and everything she does. Her self esteem is rock bottom. Thinks she is stupid and incapable of succeeding at anything. She cries all the time. I can't remember when I last saw her laugh out loud.
She had CBT sessions last year which were really good but she won't go back because she has "nothing to say to them". She got a place in a new school which she loved and couldn't wait to go to. We saw glimpses of old dd when this was on the cards. Since lockdown she no longer wants to go there. Her old school (where she has been really unhappy) is "good enough for her" and she doesn't want to discuss it. She swears she is not depressed but that we don't listen to her
She has a brother who was born when she was 7. She has always adored him and used to say he was the best thing that ever happened. In the last year she is (for the 1st time) childishly jealous of him and if we show him any affection or praise in front of her she can be nasty about it. I have always put her first (mainly because he is younger and very easy going) and I think I have set her up for this current state. I spend time one on one with her but in the last two years nothing I do is good enough. She will come out with us as a family but will sit silent and not make eye contact or talk to us.
She is angry at the moment and this has manifested itself into shouting that she will never be good enough for us. She is sobbing her heart out now. She wants to give up.
I can't do anything more. I am not a counsellor and I am exhausted emotionally with her. I am also heartbroken for her but I can't fix her, can I?