What's app question

[Veiaola]

Firstly before I get flamed, I have been cheated on before so my radar heightened.

I am feeling increasing uncomfortable by DH behaviour on what's app. He goes on it always when he is on his own, never Infront of me. Or when I leave the room.

I can send him a message when he sat next to me, Radom garden stuff😳 can hear the phone beep in his pocket but he never opens what's app Infront of me. I can see when he goes on it from last seen, always first thing in a morning, if I go to toilet or away from him etc I can see he been on. My spidery senses going overboard. He doesn't have any friends or what's app group he goes on. I sit on sofa next to him an go on what's app, I don't have anything to hide. His phone is permanently locked, how ever I did get chance recently to get his phone whilst on a call. A unusual opportunity as he won't even let me hold the phone! I feel awful for doing it but did look at settings to see who was taking up most data on what's app is me😳 .
My question is if he deleting what's app message it won't show up on the used data will it, I have tried on my own phone an this looks likely. I feel bonkers for asking this but his behaviour isn't Normal with his phone is it?

[ouch321]

The old shifty behaviour around a phone...

I wish I'd been more 'awake' when he was jumpy with it.

Seems so bloomin obvious in hindsight.

Not sure you can do much without getting on his phone though.

[EasyPleasey]

Sorry OP I would be suspicious too. No reason to be secretive with phone consistently if nothing to hide. I've had this with my ex and then men I've dated....will it never end

[Veiaola]

Oh givemeabreak that was a lucky, thank goodness you saw that.

[Verylongweek]

Another voice saying my Dh was doing this and it was an EA.

[Elly03waller]

If its first thing in the morning every morning I would say he's saying his good mornings to an OW.
You need to try and get on the phone first thing in the morning. Try calling it when he's in the shower, answer it, and then whilst you're on the fake call, look about a bit as you should then have access.
Let us know.

[Cat112344]

Seems like he’s acting dodgy on his phone, when you do finally get a good look, have a look who he’s blocked on WhatsApp and on his phone... he could message her in the morning, block and unblock her until it’s safe to speak.