How to talk about the future of the relationship?

[overthinker121]

I am 29 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for just over a year and we have a lot of fun together. He is pretty light hearted so we don't often do 'serious' conversations, but we make short to medium term plans. As we are now a year in, I would like to know whether he feels this relationship has a serious future ie settling down - not right now - but I'd like to know that this is what we are working towards. I have a big fear of 'wasting' these years with someone who doesn't want to commit. My boyfriend is a bit of a commitment-phobe I think - he said I could leave my slippers at his house and then joked 'actually you'd better not' and I had to be the one to bring up the subject of whether or not we were 'official' three months in...any ideas of how to approach the conversation without it making him feel awkward?

I think you just need to bite the bullet and have the conversation. If, after a year, you are struggling to even broach the subject I think deep down you may already have your answer though.

Why are you worrying about making him feel awkward when he is clearly not bothered about leaving you wondering how he feels?

Do you live together? Have you had a conversation about that? Sounds like he's not necessarily wanting the same things as you