Online dating

[Fuckiveranoutofpasta]

It’s an online dating one.

Started talking to a guy on tinder at the beginning of lockdown. It’s been nice but not groundbreaking. Fair amount in common, he’s not my type looks wise but attractive enough for me to think I could get past it if we hit it off in person. We’ve talked pretty much everyday, sometimes long winded chats and sometimes just a quick catch up but I haven’t felt like I’d be sad if he just suddenly disappeared if you know what I mean. Anyway, he asked if I’d like to meet up after all this is over and I agreed, all good!
Then today I notice he’s blocked me on Facebook. Not unfollowed, blocked. I look on WhatsApp and I’m not blocked on there. We had spoken this morning and all was fine. I probably should have left it but I took the sod it approach and sent him the confused face emoji. He responds within minutes saying he’s had a really stressful day. I look on Facebook and I’m suddenly unblocked. Nothing is different about his profile from the last time I saw it from what I can see. I read it and didn’t reply and he sent two follow up messages basically asking about my day.

I don’t really know what to make of this but I’m thinking I may just leave it. I don’t know him and I don’t really like being blocked for seemingly no reason! Can anyone have a stab at what this is about?

Yep that's an odd one, the fact that he left what's app open doesn't suggest he didn't want contact with you, maybe something happened on fb he didn't want you to see???
Sorry not very much help but that's the only thing that would make sense xx

Loola that’s what I’m thinking. It’s so strange though because nothing on his profile looks different. I have two Facebook profiles. One that very few people know about and I looked at his profile on that while blocked (his account is completely open) and it was the same. Nothing incriminating on there that he’d want to hide. I can’t work it out!

That's weird!
But did you add each other on Facebook before meeting??

Codename yes, it was more in a ‘I just had a pizza there’s pictures on my Facebook’.. ‘oh ok, I’ll have a look now’ kind of way though. Not a planned, strategic I want to stalk you kind of way.

Wow that’s weird, it would put me off tbh. Imagine you slept with him and he blocked you after

Yeah, it’s definitely put me off. I’ve unmatched him and deleted his number. I don’t want to risk the tiny chance that we hit it off when/if we met and then a few weeks down the line he just vanishes.

I don’t blame you , if he can block you that easily when he is “stressed” sounds like one to avoid.

Ooh @Natasharey you naughty thing having escort dinner dates during lockdown. It's almost like you and your beautiful writing style aren't real...

Are you absolutely sure he blocked you and didn't just temporarily disable his Facebook account? I've disabled my account a few times when I've wanted a break and it's appeared to other people that I've blocked them. Maybe it would have been best to just ask him, in a jokey way maybe?

namechange nope definitely blocked. I looked on my other fb account and definitely showing up as normal there!
It makes absolutely no sense. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t about to be ghosted. He did mention that he had a lot of plans with ‘the boys’ over the bank holiday weekend. The only thing I can think of is that he foresaw something appearing on his fb that he didn’t want me to see.
I guess I’ll never know now!

good on you OP... decisive and credit to you

@Fuckiveranoutofpasta what a weirdo... in that case you did wise!! It could have been something of nothing but to me it's a little red flag I'd be saying bye to before you go any further with him.

so you were facebook friends? and then he blocked and unblocked you? So presumably you aren't facebook friends anymore? If he blocked you you would no longer be friends on there. If you still are then he may have temporarily shut it down for a while. Its a bit weird either way, a bit dramatic of him.

The biggest thing is that your'e not that attracted to him though. You shouldn't have to 'get past it' over someone your're trying to be interested in romantically.

How strange! I was going to suggest he’d just deactivated too but if you checked him out on another profile and could still see him then obviously not.

So were you still friends on fb after the blocking?

@BruceWilllis oh, that's actually a really good point I didn't think about that! This is correct though, when you block someone it 100% removes them as a friend too! If you were still friends after then he definitely didn't block you

Sorry late back to this! No we weren’t friends when he unblocked me so I was definitely blocked. It was weird, I have no idea what it was about. At least I hadn’t even gone on a date with him so nothing lost really.

Mate, you've got two Facebook profiles and you think he's being shady?! My OLD advice is this :

Don't add strangers on Facebook anyway, it's weird
Don't overreact to any kind of social media connotations between you and someone you've never met or are not remotely in a relationship with
Don't overthink or practice knee jerk reactions like unmatching and deleting people if you're over 17 years old. Maturity and good judgement is a definite plus for OLD.

I'm married BTW, to one of my tinder matches, so I've got a modicum of experience in this 😁

What a strange bloke... why block someone you aren't even friends with? Surely if he wanted to hide something you wouldn't see it anyway as you aren't friends.

Whole situation is weird. I didn't even clock on that you had 2 facebooks 🙈

I kind of agree with what @Onemansoapopera has said... maybe just move on and forget this one. Don't over analyse everything moving forward.