I think I'm Finally over him

[Backtothenewme]

So I'm in the bath drinking a very nice merlot 🥴🍷
Stbxh is with ds playing xbox.
I used to be so scared of him. Scared to say no, scared to think no, scared to make any decisions. So I stopped being me so he could be happy. Only he could not be satisfied. He relentlessly ground me down till I was a shell. Chronically ill,
jobless, pathetic, petrified of life, losing my older dc as they to were ground down by him and aggressive self centred controlling insecure disordered person fucking nality!🤬
And then one day I told him he was abusive and he shit himself and left
It's been a rough year since then I found a good therapist, she's worth her weight in gold and she is not skinny😁 and today I my bath I am over him. And he knows it deep down. Hes a scared child who chooses to abuse rather than work on himself. To be gauche is trying and seeing a therapist and I hope he sees who he is and changes...but for the next poor sod who falls for him... not me.
So stbxshithead...I am over you

Thanks for listening and cheers (it's a big glass of really nice wine 🥴💖👍🏼🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷)

Fair not gouche

I have also ate half a pack of bakewell tarts. Dont judge me
Actually judge away I dont give a fly8ng rats bum

Woohoo let's hear it for merlot

Testicles...I meant to say testicles not bum. Bum is too safe and nice.
Is anyone else just over their dead weight ex areseholes or is it just me?

Yep! Been there twice, enjoy your wine and bath

Good for you wisewoman. I am not on my bed spinning whilst lying perfectly still 🤣

Good for you and well done for getting away. Hope you enjoyed your 🍷 and your hangover isn't too bad!

Wonderful!

Thanks! Mild hangover as I'm a lightweight really and only had 2 glasses. Just woke up and still feel happy to be over him. But a bit less warrior like without the wine 🤣
I now see why so many on here plead with women to LTB. But I also know why so many find it hard or next to impossible. Fear cripples you and takes away your power.
I'm ready to start building myself back up to a new better version of me.
I got a job last month. I used to be a manager but I ended up not being able to work. The relationship stress caused me to be ill and he wanted me to leave employment once we had built up our business to a place where it could pay him enough...until then I was the main breadwinner.
My new job is nowhere near what I used to do but it's all mine and I love it.
Women if you're reading this and you are in an abusive relationship feel free to speak up on this thread or make your own. I'm happy to share the space. It's important that you take steps to save yourself and the first one is deciding it has to stop.

Bravo OP. Very similar experience. I'm thriving now. Although I do have to remind myself occasionally because I'm prone to criticising and over analysing.
This didn't happen by accident. I've worked really hard to reach this contentment. I wanted it more than anything else in the world.
Now we rise and win at life

Aufait I hear you. The damage they do is far reaching and we are left over analysing our part in it... well I am anyway. I have to gift myself time off from doing that, even if it means me drinking wine in the bath.