How to pull back from intensity of on line exchange .

[whitefluffyslippers]

Hoping You can guide me please.
I started to chat to man on tinder some
weeks ago and it got intense very quickly. Chatting for hours at a time and regular daily texting.
We got into the habit of him
Making all the first calls/ texts etc and that suited me fine as I am busy with kids and work.Now however I feel that he has taken control of the exchanges in that he lets me know when he will call me and when he is free to talk for example.
I feel uncomfortable with this as I feel that it puts me into the 'waiting girl' category of that makes sense.
Our conversations are beginning to centre on him and while he is very interesting and engaging,I feel that he just skims over my contribution to conversation.
Now I understand that he doesn't talk to any other adult all day long and he is a serious talker but I'm
Beginning to get a bit bored.
I like him, he seems
Interested as am I , but the contact has really slowed down. Is this normal or is he getting bored too ? Or is this a natural progression after the intensity of the first few weeks of intense talking and getting to know one another?
I don't think I want to end the exchange but how do I pull Away a little and take back equality in our exchanges ? I am brand new to online discourse and have been in a single relationship of twenty years so this is a whole new world to me.. Dipping my toe in so to speak! Thanks if you've read this far .

Thanks. Great ideas . I'm so new to all of this and it's also such a weird time, I don't know what's normal anymore!
Will have to wait and see if he makes contact this evening as I won't bother and if he does , I have a line ready to stall it a bit . Fingers crossed.in the meantime, there wine! Thanks

Well He hasn't messaged yet !! 😬

Do you usually contact him first?

Never ! He has just text and
He is in hospital with chest pain and shortness of breath z

I hope he is okay.

He is in hospital
!!

Yes I meant I hope he recovers quickly and is okay.

Chest pain and shortness of breath

Thanks

Oh wow, does he think it's Covid? Sounds very worrying.

Are his kids old enough to look after themselves while their father is in hospital?

I would just really urge caution here and remember that you don't know this person. Online conversations can give a false air of intimacy. He says he is a single parent. He says he is in hospital.

Thanks.He has no family support and his ex is not in their lives. He has close
Friends who live nearby.I am being cautious as much as one can be. Thanks

Something isn’t sitting right, op. Be extremely cautious.

Tell him you're going to spend less time online.

Dont be his counsellor or his support!

Why on earth are you giving him so much control over you.
With respect, you come accross as being a bit desperate.
When it's this intense, it can't be maintained - it's far too much too soon.
Slow right down and take a breath.
Most of all have a bit of faith in yourself.

I hope he is OK but please remember you don’t this guy OP. He might be a lone parent and could have been taken to hospital or maybe he is not who he says he is. You have no way of knowing so best keep emotional distance and don’t give to many details on where you live etc. Stag safe 🤗

Be very careful Op until you meet him. I was just ghosted and thought the bloke was as straight as they came. I wish I hadn't overinvested early on, and my chats were nowhere near as much as yours. I wish I'd kept in mind that I didn't actually know him but I got excited then ghosted and I haven't a clue why. Don't be me, keep yourself strong and don't overinvest.

have you heard anything OP ?

Hope you’re ok OP. As people say, you don’t know anything about him or his life really. Wish him well, check in with him in a few days. Let him get well, he’s in the right place, after all.

Sounds a bit suspicious to me.
To be completely fine one day then covid symptoms and immediate hospital admittance?