Ex partner in new relationship

[TheresGotToBeMoreToLife]

I was just told my ex boyfriend has a new partner. We split up 6 months ago so it's no issue and I dont want to be with him anymore ... but I just feel a bit sad and low tonight. I'm single and the loneliness of the current situation probably isnt helping.

He was a good guy, but 7 yrs younger than me, I had children, he didnt. On paper it was never going to work. He had good intentions but was like an overexcitable puppy at times and did have his flaws. He split with me, I took it hard and now I just feel really really flat, now that I've found out he's in a new relationship. I guess he's moved on, and I haven't.

I feel lonely, scared I'll always be alone and scared to always feel this way. I cant have a hug from anyone in real life. Handhold anyone?

6 months is quite a long time, was you still in contact? Who told you?

It's rubbish when you're single a nd lonely, I've been single 3 years so know the feeling

No, we've not been in contact since we split. He wanted to remain friends but I cut all contact as I found it too hard to see what he was up to on facebook etc.

A mutual friend told me tonight.

I dont even know why it makes me feel anything. I dont want him.

I guess maybe it just reminds me how very single I am, and being single with children makes me feel even more lonely as I know there are plenty of men who wont be interested in someone in my situation.

I think maybe something that compounds this was that a couple of days ago a friend told me she knew a guy (I do know of him in passing) and thought we could be a good match. She'd showed him my fb profile and he said he was also interested. Great! She sent me his number and the next night I texted just to say hi and how was he coping with lockdown. That was sat night and I've heard nothing. He just blanked me. So I feel kind of embarrassed there too. What is wrong with me?

I SO want to be loved that it makes me cry for the absence of love in my life on a daily basis. It's getting me so so down. I picture the future and just feel nothing but bleakness.

6 months isn't long at all, especially as it's meant to take at least half the amount of time in a relationship to get over someone full.

Plus you didn't want the relationship to end really and missing company isn't a bad thing at all, it's why so many stay or go back to ex's it feel comfortable.

Its very normal.

I don't think that half the time to get over thing applies to men! Ime men move on pretty quickly, so I do think him in a relationship 6m later is quite a long time, how long is he expected to stay single? my ex moved a woman in 3 weeks after we broke up. That's what I meant by its a long time , especially if there has been no contact, I m not referring to op. It's normal to be sad but I'm not surprised he's moved on 6m later.

It doesn't say how long they were together either.

If the future looks bleak for the sole reason you don't have a man you need to work on that mindset more than you need a new man I'm afraid!
It's always a bit annoying to see an ex move on and can make you think about your own life but to dwell on it is a bit extreme. Find other things which you enjoy, although that may be limited at the moment!

There's a difference between moving on and shagging someone else.

Why do you think men carry so much mental damage. They don't give themselves time to heal and actions are very different to actually how a person feels.

Like I going around smiling all day, but deep down feeling exhausted and just wanting to curl in a ball and cry.