Warning. This comes across as SO petty, but I am just sick of this sort of thing happening again and again. I appreciate that most responses will be telling me, quite rightly, to get a life.
As soon as there is any sort of conflict, DH and I do not seem to be able to communicate. Tiny example from just now.
DH knocks a tray of cakes upside down right by me. I jump and say ‘oh my god’ in a startled way. DH squawks (I think) too. DH then says ‘it’s only cakes’ in a shitty way to me, implying I’m making a fuss about nothing. I say ‘you yelped too’. He says he didn’t.
Couple of minutes later I ask DD if she heard who said what, she only heard me. DH walks in and I say ‘who knows then’ amicably.
DH then said, ‘well you had a go at me for over-reacting’. ‘What?’ I say.
Anyway DHs point, when I said ‘you made a squawk too’ is that I was telling him he was over reacting. Whereas I think I was trying to say that he couldn’t have a go at me because he had done the same thing. So then in left trying to explain that, which is just painful over such a tiny thing. But I don’t want him to think I was having a go when I wasn’t.
I don’t know what we’re doing wrong. Anyone bored and care to tell me how to handle this better?