Am I being selfish for wanting some love?

[Fightingback16]

I came out of an abusive 12 year marriage last year and moved into my mums house with my daughter who is almost 4 now. I’ve been struggling with symptoms of a breakdown and PTSD and terrible anxiety. I feel like I’m getting a small grip on my symptoms but I just so desperately need a hug. My mum is not emotional at all. Some days like today all I say is I feel a bit tired and she replies there is always something wrong with you. I have M.E from all the stress of the abuse, so yeah some days I’m tired. I’ve actually been feeling quite good lately, not too tired at all and haven’t mentioned it. My mum doesn’t know about any of my diagnosis apart from M.E because she isn’t really understanding. She is very emotionally unavailable.

Is it normal to just want a massive hug? Or am I being selfish? I hug my daughter all day long which is nice. I feel the tension in my upper body that could do with a massive squeeze.

I can't ever remember getting a hug from my mother, she tried once and I just recoiled, I felt bad about it but it was such a shock and she felt like a bundle of twigs.
Some people are just like that. It's not great but I think realistically you know she won't change now.
Longing for it will just make you more ill. Just concentrate on your daughter and give up battles that can't be won.
I remember my mother seeing me cry when my cat died and then when a relative died and there was no comfort there at all from her. She just turned her back on me and went into another room.
I feel for you I really do.

I don’t want it from my mum. I just want human interaction which is kind. I feel a bit like a child but I’m 37.

It’s nice to get a good hug. Humans need human touch. At least you have your daughter there to hug. I’ve got a cat to hug (on her terms of course) but it’s not the same as a human companion!

YANBU to want some love, a hug, or a kindly touch. I'm sorry you can't get one. I'd give you a big hug if I could.

I just feel like absolute s**t today. The emotional strain of my husband over the years has had such an effect on my body. I’ve had two root canals since and today I’ve another tooth infection and this tooth is now dead. I have antibiotic but no dentists available. My hair is also so grey. I’m angry at myself.