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Annoying husband

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Mommysnape · 30/04/2020 22:33

Almost every time I have to tell my daughter off (shes pretty well behaved so not often) her dad interrupts and starts telling her off to, I feel like I might as well not be there he just complety interrupts. My daughter Is 5 now and I have told him to stop doing this soooo many times and he will for a while but then goes back to it. I know we are all probably guilty of doing it every now and again (I've caught myself doing it a couple of times) but it's gotten to the point now where I just want to pull my hair out I feel like he is undermining me. Any advise would be helpful

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Mommysnape · 30/04/2020 22:41

I'm sorry am I not aloud feelings?? Am i not aloud to ask for a little advise when in need?? This might not seem like an issue to you but for me it is?

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randomguy12 · 30/04/2020 23:10

When was the last time he’s done this?

Dazedandconfusedpart2 · 30/04/2020 23:19

Pay no mind OP. Can only assume @AManSpeaks is a misogynist who thinks women should put up and shut up.

I've been in a professional situation before where a man reworded everything I said. There was no need, I was clear and concise in my own explanation. Totally get the feeling of being undermined!

He's not expressing it well but it's a positive thing that he is trying to show solidarity with disciplining. Definitely explain your feelings to him and ask that he lets you say your piece and you will ask him for help if you feel it's necessary (and do the same in return).
It's really confusing for a 5 year old to have 2 adults both giving her into trouble, it really escalates the situation to more than her behaviour warrants!

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Dazedandconfusedpart2 · 01/05/2020 00:12

this is what annoys you, grow up and find some real issues

Yes, must have misinterpreted this as it was so clearly full of respect.

Your response was rude, flippant and completely disregarded OP's post as a genuine concern. Do you think anything that isn't abuse is acceptable and not a 'real issue'?

I said nothing negative about OPs husband and certainly didn't advise leaving so unsure where you plucked that from?
Neither a misandrist, nor in need of a 'playbook' to do my thinking for me.

faithfulbird · 01/05/2020 00:15

Tell him off in front of her... for interferring in a assertive tone. Next time he joins in go hug your daughter and say we don't need both parents telling her off. I don't know why but it works with mine. He backs off.

NoMoreDickheads · 01/05/2020 00:49

@AManSpeaks Bored are we?

I can see that this would be annoying OP. And it's always aggravating when you've asked someone not to do something, they've agreed and then started it up again.

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Mommysnape · 01/05/2020 13:10

Cheers guys got some food for thought appreciate it 😊

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