I think my husband is having an affair

[AmanBajaj1]

Hi all, I'm new here and I felt compelled to post due to my situation.

I've been with my husband for about 7 years now. I am actually born in India but I came to this country when I got married in 2000.

Recently, my husband has been coming back late in the evenings - he works in a Leicester call centre. One day I checked his phone and saw some extremely saucy text messages from his work colleague. I don't want to repeat everything written in it, but it said things like "Yesterday was hot, can't wait to see you tommorow babe" and so on.

In our spare time, we run a successful eBay business selling school labels, so I spend most of the day making labels. I haven't got a full time job, I stay at home and look after our two beautiful children, one of whom I had just given birth to in last year in December.

I'm really sorry to let this all out, but I don't know what to do. I love my husband and he really loves me, well at least I thought he did, but I am pretty sure he is cheating on me because I found a pack of condoms in his bag to work.

I don't know how to approach him, for fear that he might get angry / or attack me. Any suggestions?

Aman Bajaj

i thought that about speedy picking up of smilies

I dunno, it looks pretty contentious to me.

reasonably new to UK
saucy text messages
cheating husband
condoms
previous attack

I don't usually call troll on anyone, but just not convinced by this post

Kaloo20 - this person would have seen the category "username" when she first registered so when other posters told her not to use her own name on here, she would have automatically known that that category should be changed.

But feel free to bandy about ridiculous accusations for the sake of feeling big and important - well done for putting off a poster potentially in genuine need

To the OP - please do delete this thread and start a new one with a less obvious user name - perhaps a nickname from childhood or something less traceable. Lots of people have given very good advice on here - custardo in particular. I hope you manage to think things through and decide whether to stay or go - good luck

FFF2 if OP knows anything about forums anywhere, they know not to post in own name

We
Don't
Care

It's not that we are lepping about saying "Not a troll, no no, she can't be" it's that we really don't care. The advise is there. It's never a waste of time, because just occasionally, it helps someone real.

and, fyi, I used to belong to a forum where you used your name and initial. It automatically didn't use the whole surname despite entering it when registering.

Honestly you 'troll hunters' need to take an empathy pill.

Why would someone start a thread that is basically humiliating to the OP admitting that she thinks her DH is having an affair, found condoms on him etc and also admit to him ATTACKING HER!! ffs. Ihonestly cant see what not genuine about this thread, i dont know how to change username and ive been here since april

I really dont think its right that she is being called a troll and am so sick of seeing people on here being attacked!

Anyway, OP i hope you get whatever you need sorted and there are loads of people on her that do actually want to help you not throw names at you!! Im so sorry you are in this situation

and im really sorry and this IS NOT a personal attack but are you kidding me about the smileys??? There are directions right next to the text box...........

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Hi there,

Just to say that if the OP would like to have this thread deleted, please contact Mumsnet HQ by clicking on the red exclamation mark at the top right of your post.

I have no advice to offer you - but you have had some good pointers anyway. Just wanted to send you my sympathy.

clear off icod, ucod we all scream for no-cod

I'm not a newbie ... and it was a troll

Hello abc - how are you? There are lots of nice people on here who want to help if they can, or maybe just listen and say they understand.

So when does a poster not become a newbie..oh no I get it never if not in the "clique"