Husband .Again

[saffy1234]

I posted a few weeks back on here about husband leaving during lockdown.To which I received many many replies (most stating there must be OW)
Well since then he hasn't left,has opening arranged viewings and spoken to landlords and sent information,he told me he was leaving on the 8th.
Then last night it all came to a head,we got into an argument and I told him to say he didn't love me I asked him over and over until he said it to me.
He then left.Sent me messages saying how he's not happy,it's a chore,he's fallen out of love,he may go and this what the fuck have I done but for now this is what I want.
He then came back around midnight said he was staying until the 8th.If not got somewhere to go he will go to his mums.
He then has since text me today.Saying he's staying at an air b&b he's stayed at before nearby (we fell out once and he went there he says he's paying cash) he's coming to get a few bits of his stuff and see our children then buy a takeaway ,as it not fair the kids miss out (today is my birthday-I know wonderful right!) then he's going.Everything's hard for him .He's losing everything.
I do suspect another woman but if it is he's not changed his appearance at all,his head needs shaving,he's not been showering more or anything.
I just don't know what to do or think.I am so upset ,I have children who are his step kids and we have 2ds and 1dd together.DS 1 is 6 and is severely autistic,non verbal ,epileptic will probably always be with me.
Anyone know what the hell may be happening!My friend thinks he's depressed.For information whilst he's been here he's been no different he even asked my mum to make him a cake when she was stood outside our house to wish our DD a happy birthday.He's not told anyone.I now have.
I'm so hurt and upset.Sorry to ramble on.

Openly
Sorry for the typos I'm a bit distressed

May go and think *
Sorry again

We can only guess what he's up to but the fact he's said all this on your birthday makes him a wanker.

Its convenient he's paying cash for staying somewhere when nearly everywhere has moved yo online payments, is he really in an Air B n B or is he staying with another woman?

I read your other thread, have you read the script that all men follow if they cheat?
I think someone linked to it.

I said that!
He's here right now from work.Saying he’s been consumed over the last few days can’t see any way past it
If I’d of been this upset last time this wouldn’t of happened (we fell out for and he went to this air b&b for a few days) I know that was rejects I went there,says it's the same woman and he contacted her
He’s not telling anyone for a few days while he sorts his head out and doesn't want me to

I read your other thread op. And yes, he's a tosser for doing it on your birthday. But it might be a blessing it's all come to a head. At least this way you aren't stuck in limbo any longer, and you know it's definitely over (didn't he ask you for sex recently too).

You can start to decide how you want it to go and have some sort of control.

However it does also sound like there is OW, my dh didn't change at all whilst having an affair so it's not always a given

I’d put money on OW

I would always go straight to OW
But..... he's doesn't take care of himself any more than he did.
Was he on his phone more?
Your set up at home sounds complex and very hard.
How many step children does he have?
He may actually just be depressed or has had enough of the tough family life he has.
Having said that... he can't just walk away from it all leaving it all to you!
That's completely unfair as well.
I think a calm but very honest discussion is required.

Saying he’s been consumed over the last few days can’t see any way past it
If I’d of been this upset last time this wouldn’t of happened (last year he went for a few days)
He’s not telling anyone for a few days while he sorts his head out
This is the last thing he wants

Hi @hellsbellsmelons 4 step children
Not unruly children,all well mannered and love him to bits

My friend has a severely autistic child, her husband left soon after the diagnosis, didn't want to know.
Maybe the truth is stepchildren and the prospect of an autistic child is too much for him and he doesn't want it.
Shame we can't just walk away isn't it.

Not telling anyone for a few days

Why? Because he's dithering...telling everyone will make it real. Take control and tell him to get his arse back to the "air bnb".

No idea
Sorry for posting another thread everyone.I am just bereft.

That's sad @madcatladyforever DS was 2 when diagnosed and is nearly 7 now ,it's hard some days.